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I am a pleaser. Why isn't he?
Seriously, after ten years I am still as horny as ever but do I expect too much when I want foreplay. Why wont my hubby give me oral! He acts like my V is ugly. Trust me, it is not. I keep it smelling like Victoria Secret 24/7 not to mention it is completely smooth! I am in shape and even do my girly kegals (ladies you know what m talking about) He avoids even touching it! WTF! Could he be intimidated or scared to not get me off? Really, am I selfish for asking this. Because I have asked him and he avoids my question! Help
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Nothing jumpstarts her like oral sex, so put one pillow under her hips and another under your chest. It's easier for her to then adjust her knees and legs. Rest your chin on your fist, and use a finger to put pressure on the bottom of her vagina to heighten the sensation.This is a chin rest technique.
I understant completely, me and my husband have been married for 10 years I'm 28 and my husband is 35. We have a great sex life, I am awesome at oral and do some nights and every morning. I also like to receive but my husband doesn't do as often as I would like it. When he does he blows my mind its amazing. But I cant approach the problem. I have always been very active in the bedroom. I think that our sex life is one of the things that make our relationship so strong...
It is hardly gross. I find it the most enjoyable thing to do to a woman. Maybe he has tried it in the past and was told that he was not good and now thinks it's gross?
I really find it odd when men will not give oral sex to a woman. If at the very least your giving so much please to your wife should make the guy very pleased.
As for the "girlfriend" most guys have a fantasy of having a 3-some with another woman or watching 2 women together. So that is common thinking.
I really find it odd when men will not give oral sex to a woman. If at the very least your giving so much please to your wife should make the guy very pleased.
As for the "girlfriend" most guys have a fantasy of having a 3-some with another woman or watching 2 women together. So that is common thinking.
Because this was on my mind so strong I opened up to my husband and shared this posed question to him. He had no problem answering me after he saw I had reached out to complete strangers in desperation via internet. Matter-o-fact he said it quite simply, "I don't like it. It is gross." I of course wanted to know if I should take this personally and asked him, " Is it just me? Am I unattractive down there?" He replied, " No, I just think it is gross." Well there you have it folks! Oh and he did say one more thing... "but you can get a girlfriend of yours to do it." WTF! Really. I mean really. This is a typical response from him. Which leads me to a new question..... I will post it separately to organised my thoughts. Thanks for your help.
You are not selfish for ask for oral. Can't say why he will not do it. Only he can tell you. You need to be asking him why, even though you said he has avioded the question he can only answer it.
If you give him oral you can always stop doing that and see what his responce is and tell him oral for him only if oral for you.
But it really needs to be discussed, make sure when you ask him you make him comfortable. Don't be critical or anything like that.
If you give him oral you can always stop doing that and see what his responce is and tell him oral for him only if oral for you.
But it really needs to be discussed, make sure when you ask him you make him comfortable. Don't be critical or anything like that.
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I think perhaps your man has some homosexual or anti-sexual tendencies. Most men like myself, will get an erection just looking at a vagina in real life, and giving oral should be extremely exciting for him.
Some women have this problem as well, they think a naked man is disgusting. Those women will never have a good sex life because they wont get turned on by their aroused spouse.