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I want my wife to let me perform oral sex on her
We use to have a great sex life untill 3 years ago when my wife gave birth to our daughter. Now the interest in sex has gone down and we only have sex 2-3 time a month. Earlier we did all kinds of sex positions and she even allowed me to have oral sex. She liked it then but now she completely refuses to let me do so. I have tried convinving her with several artiles on oral sex and make her understand that it is safe and normal.
The change in behaviour could be because of some article she read on the internet which said oral sex could lead to mouth / throat cancer. There after she would never let me perform oral sex with her. Normally we would start off by me kissing her all over her body and and help her masturbate. She would reach orgasm once and then i would penitrate her. While she gets satisfied at times it leaves me wanting for more and it would be always wanting to have oral sex first and the rest of the act.
Please help me in converting her mind in doing oral sex
The change in behaviour could be because of some article she read on the internet which said oral sex could lead to mouth / throat cancer. There after she would never let me perform oral sex with her. Normally we would start off by me kissing her all over her body and and help her masturbate. She would reach orgasm once and then i would penitrate her. While she gets satisfied at times it leaves me wanting for more and it would be always wanting to have oral sex first and the rest of the act.
Please help me in converting her mind in doing oral sex
What tests of STD should I go to ensure that myself and wife are free of any decease before we go for oral sex?
Sorry for the multiple updates.
I happened to be browsing our STD Expert forums and noticed the following post that has some relation to your question as well.
http://www.medhelp.org/posts/STDs/HPV-Concern/show/1188980
Dr. Hook gives a stat of:
"... 6,000 cases of oral or throat cancer per year that are due to HPV-16, the main genital type that has been implicated; and those occur almost exclusively in people age 50 and over..."
Hope this helps ya.
I happened to be browsing our STD Expert forums and noticed the following post that has some relation to your question as well.
http://www.medhelp.org/posts/STDs/HPV-Concern/show/1188980
Dr. Hook gives a stat of:
"... 6,000 cases of oral or throat cancer per year that are due to HPV-16, the main genital type that has been implicated; and those occur almost exclusively in people age 50 and over..."
Hope this helps ya.
I can't believe I didn't proof read that before I posted it. Wow I had a lot wrong in that post. Someone get me some coffee please. Sorry. If you have a hard time understanding due to my mis use of words let me know and I will re do that one. Sorry
I am trying to find a book that I would recommend for one not wanting to have sexual encounters but after re-reading your post I don't think that is helpful.
So sitting down I remembered hearing about the same thing. So I got my all knowing Oracle out (Google) and quickly did some research about what is going on to refresh myself. Here is what I found and you can confirm this or not for me.
http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/OnCall/story?id=6034244&page=1
Now this story covers oral sex and the link to Throat and Mouth cancer. The twist is the stats come from those who are infected with HPV and in the study HPV-16 was metioned. Okay now if you read and I am going to paste this here (Quoting and Citing to be proper)
So just exactly how it gets in the mouth may stun you.
Frome ABCNews.Com Article:
"There is absolutely a link between oral sex and oral cancer," said Dr. Ellen Rome, of the Cleveland Clinic.
Although no proof exists yet, there is a chance that HPV can be transmitted mouth to mouth.
"We can't rule out the virus could be transmitted in saliva by other types of contact — like for instance sharing a drink or sharing a spoon," said Dr. Maura Gillison, of Johns Hopkins Kimmel Cancer Center. (ABCNews, 2008)
Okay now. This part is the shot in the heart if you ask me. While no proof exists yet there is a chance that HPV can be transmitted mouth to mouth. Oh boy! That means that they think kissing will give you HPV. So if you two are still kissing using her logic then you can get mouth and/or throat cancer.
Now with that stand lets just kill this whole thing as it stands. First off in order for their to be a risk to either or your health one of you has to have HPV in the genital region to spread it to the other persons mouth to infect them. In a marriage where both partners do not have other partners the chances of you getting HPV isn't present. As long as you both have been tested for us guys there isn't an easy way for us to be checked other then a visual and culture exam.
In course of my doing the research on of the sites that is commonly given out on the STD / Herpes forums and STD/Herpes Expert Forums is the American Social Health Association. This site has a LOT of information for different things HPV is one of them. The good thing is that MH's STD Exper Forum Doctors Dr. Hook and Dr. Hunter (Dr. HHH if you like) both ar eon the board of directors. Very doubtful they will let mis information get on their site. I would start with that and go from there.
http://www.ashastd.org/hpv/hpv_learn.cfm
Go over that site read the FAQ/Fast Facts and take your time to get informed. Makes having a converstation easier and also shows you have done your homework. Then feel free to point her to the sites and the study. Your wife I am sure no doubt has a pap done and if so she knows shes pretty much doesn't have HPV.
Discussion with her will be first and the best step I feel you can take. If your wife will not listen then talk to your provider and have the both of you come in for a consultation to discuss the risks. But for you both you aren't having other partners so the risk of you having HPV is low being that again you aren't with others.
Good Luck and let us know if you have more questions.
So sitting down I remembered hearing about the same thing. So I got my all knowing Oracle out (Google) and quickly did some research about what is going on to refresh myself. Here is what I found and you can confirm this or not for me.
http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/OnCall/story?id=6034244&page=1
Now this story covers oral sex and the link to Throat and Mouth cancer. The twist is the stats come from those who are infected with HPV and in the study HPV-16 was metioned. Okay now if you read and I am going to paste this here (Quoting and Citing to be proper)
So just exactly how it gets in the mouth may stun you.
Frome ABCNews.Com Article:
"There is absolutely a link between oral sex and oral cancer," said Dr. Ellen Rome, of the Cleveland Clinic.
Although no proof exists yet, there is a chance that HPV can be transmitted mouth to mouth.
"We can't rule out the virus could be transmitted in saliva by other types of contact — like for instance sharing a drink or sharing a spoon," said Dr. Maura Gillison, of Johns Hopkins Kimmel Cancer Center. (ABCNews, 2008)
Okay now. This part is the shot in the heart if you ask me. While no proof exists yet there is a chance that HPV can be transmitted mouth to mouth. Oh boy! That means that they think kissing will give you HPV. So if you two are still kissing using her logic then you can get mouth and/or throat cancer.
Now with that stand lets just kill this whole thing as it stands. First off in order for their to be a risk to either or your health one of you has to have HPV in the genital region to spread it to the other persons mouth to infect them. In a marriage where both partners do not have other partners the chances of you getting HPV isn't present. As long as you both have been tested for us guys there isn't an easy way for us to be checked other then a visual and culture exam.
In course of my doing the research on of the sites that is commonly given out on the STD / Herpes forums and STD/Herpes Expert Forums is the American Social Health Association. This site has a LOT of information for different things HPV is one of them. The good thing is that MH's STD Exper Forum Doctors Dr. Hook and Dr. Hunter (Dr. HHH if you like) both ar eon the board of directors. Very doubtful they will let mis information get on their site. I would start with that and go from there.
http://www.ashastd.org/hpv/hpv_learn.cfm
Go over that site read the FAQ/Fast Facts and take your time to get informed. Makes having a converstation easier and also shows you have done your homework. Then feel free to point her to the sites and the study. Your wife I am sure no doubt has a pap done and if so she knows shes pretty much doesn't have HPV.
Discussion with her will be first and the best step I feel you can take. If your wife will not listen then talk to your provider and have the both of you come in for a consultation to discuss the risks. But for you both you aren't having other partners so the risk of you having HPV is low being that again you aren't with others.
Good Luck and let us know if you have more questions.
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