Its Mental...

[Xplaya]

I have a girlfriend and when we have sex, I always have an erection and sex is no problem. No medicine needed. Since I am single, I date other women, and when intimacy comes about, I will get an erection but can't maintain it. I have used Cialis and Viagra and it helps me keep the erection but even with Cialis which supposed to last for 36 hours, my erection sometimes let me down the next day. Because of past issues in my failed marriage, I think the guilt of being with more than one partner won't allow me to have sex like I use to. I need help. I don't like the other women to feel like I am not into them because that is not the case. I am looking for the right person to be with so knowing the sexual side is important. I use protection EVERY time. I got to get over this mental block. What can I do?

[Xplaya]

Thank you. That was wonderfull advice. I just got to get an understanding of how to get in that zone.  I always try to get to know the people I get involved with but what is crazy to me is that if you don't make a move somewhat fast, in todays time , some women start thinking you're gay or just not into them. Women can be a lot more aggressive than they were when I was younger.

Take care & I appreciated your good advice.

[iam1butterfly]

Your right... what you described is all "between the ears." If there's guilt, anger, disappointment, resentment or some kind of uncomfortable feeling going on inside your head, it'll affect sexual performance. This is true for women as well. But, for obvious reasons, it's noticeable in men. Maybe, what you need is to establish some sort of "connection" or "comfort zone" with the other women before intimacy occurs... just a thought from a woman's perspective!