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Hello... I am posting this because I don't know what else to do. For many years now, I cannot stop masturbating due to an actual physical feeling in my testicles that I NEED a release. I need to ejaculate several times a day to even function. And even when I have sex, I am still left NEEDING more within an hour or two. I wake up in the morning and masturbation is a MUST in order for me to get out of bed and get in the shower to start my day. Throughout the day, this miserable hopeless urge is always there. Every time I masturbate, I feel satisfied for a little while until this WEIGHT comes back and controls my life again. In order to fall asleep at night, I must masturbate at least twice. I want to make it clear that although I acknowledge the "mental obsession" aspect of it, it certainly feels more physical...like actual pressure in my groin area that needs to be released. I can't live like this anymore. It controls my life...I am a slave to it. I've had all types of blood tests done and my testosterone and all other hormone levels are normal. I HAVE TRIED SSRI'S, BETA BLOCKERS, MOOD STABALIZERS AND EVEN HERBAL SUPPLEMENTS....none of these have helped at all. If I don't beat this, I will NEVER be able to live a normal life. Please help. Thank you.
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Your advice is just perfect. It is a professional approach. If Terry, or any one reads, understand and follow, they will be able to break the addiction. The person should read this advice again and again till he starts implimenting it.
Additional approach is through exercises. Sexual urge is a positive energy with great power. It can be converted into mental energy or spiritual energy.by exercises and mental control. Google microcosmic orbit.It involves circulating sexual urge around microcosmic orbit( front and back meridians). and other exercise is abdominal breathing. This is an efficient breathing. more efficient than chest breathing. It has calming effect. learn and practice. If you do not take care now, you may lose sexual strength and suffer from lack of libido, premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction.Determing to overcome all obstacles and be successful.Thunderseed, your advice will make any one' thundurously ' successful.
Additional approach is through exercises. Sexual urge is a positive energy with great power. It can be converted into mental energy or spiritual energy.by exercises and mental control. Google microcosmic orbit.It involves circulating sexual urge around microcosmic orbit( front and back meridians). and other exercise is abdominal breathing. This is an efficient breathing. more efficient than chest breathing. It has calming effect. learn and practice. If you do not take care now, you may lose sexual strength and suffer from lack of libido, premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction.Determing to overcome all obstacles and be successful.Thunderseed, your advice will make any one' thundurously ' successful.
You have an addiction. I felt exactly the same way before I recovered from sex addiction, there was a point I was looking into castration because I felt the problem was purely physical and that I would never be able to live normally as long as my groin kept acting up all the time causing me to have to submit to orgasm. I hated it and not a lot of non sex addicts understood how I could be a sex addict and hate it at the same time, but it controlled my life and was like this demon that never left me alone.
But it's not physical. You may have a high sex drive but the only reason you are getting physically turned on all the time is because it has become habitual. The addictive release phase becomes habitual. Your groin wakes up seemingly by itself due to a huge number of triggers that trigger you to need to act out in an addictive way.
It's not just a habit that you learned from a young age, if you learn to become self aware enough, you will probably learn that many subconsious things are triggering it.
For example, in my recovery I learned that all stress triggered it for me, even the mildest stress that happened in my life. I learned that even reading something, or learning something had become a trigger for me. Even staring at a wall was a trigger. The smallest things were triggest, but once I became aware of them I was able to say, "no, instead of masterbating I am going to deal with the reason why this is bothering me".
To recover you need to become temporarily abstinent from your problem areas, and during the abstinence you must be willing to look at your emotions and your thoughts and be self aware of what is going on in your mind.
Instead of acting out, ask yourself why you are feeling the need to induce orgasm. At first it will cause you to feel really agitated but this is good because it will bring up a lot of emotions and mental and possibly psychological crap that needs to be dealt with.
After so long of dealing with your problems by giving into your bodily urges, you will be refusing to and instead dealing with the underlying problem.
You will see that the problem is not physical, you have simply become addicted to it and all addictions have underlying psychological/emotional problems. Orgasm releases dopamine and makes the body feel good temporarily, but for a sex addict, it will also make you crash and you will feel really aweful afterwards and will need to do it again and again, and it will never feel satisfying enough to your body because you have become lost in a chain reaction of addiction. It's a terrible spiral to get caught in that most people do not understand.
It's very dangerous and cause cause very serious injuries and other problems.
The things you listed are not going to help. What is going to help you is to actually deal with your addiction - face your demons, do the self work. Join a 12 step group, SAA, find a therapist, or psychologist, talk to other recovered sex addicts like myself. You are welcome to email me anytime.
I know it seems purely physical, but it only feels like it's a physical problem because you are addicted to a physical thing. Your genitalia and the way you get turned on is completely governed by your mind. This is a very common thing for sex addicts to go through, so you are not alone.
But it's not physical. You may have a high sex drive but the only reason you are getting physically turned on all the time is because it has become habitual. The addictive release phase becomes habitual. Your groin wakes up seemingly by itself due to a huge number of triggers that trigger you to need to act out in an addictive way.
It's not just a habit that you learned from a young age, if you learn to become self aware enough, you will probably learn that many subconsious things are triggering it.
For example, in my recovery I learned that all stress triggered it for me, even the mildest stress that happened in my life. I learned that even reading something, or learning something had become a trigger for me. Even staring at a wall was a trigger. The smallest things were triggest, but once I became aware of them I was able to say, "no, instead of masterbating I am going to deal with the reason why this is bothering me".
To recover you need to become temporarily abstinent from your problem areas, and during the abstinence you must be willing to look at your emotions and your thoughts and be self aware of what is going on in your mind.
Instead of acting out, ask yourself why you are feeling the need to induce orgasm. At first it will cause you to feel really agitated but this is good because it will bring up a lot of emotions and mental and possibly psychological crap that needs to be dealt with.
After so long of dealing with your problems by giving into your bodily urges, you will be refusing to and instead dealing with the underlying problem.
You will see that the problem is not physical, you have simply become addicted to it and all addictions have underlying psychological/emotional problems. Orgasm releases dopamine and makes the body feel good temporarily, but for a sex addict, it will also make you crash and you will feel really aweful afterwards and will need to do it again and again, and it will never feel satisfying enough to your body because you have become lost in a chain reaction of addiction. It's a terrible spiral to get caught in that most people do not understand.
It's very dangerous and cause cause very serious injuries and other problems.
The things you listed are not going to help. What is going to help you is to actually deal with your addiction - face your demons, do the self work. Join a 12 step group, SAA, find a therapist, or psychologist, talk to other recovered sex addicts like myself. You are welcome to email me anytime.
I know it seems purely physical, but it only feels like it's a physical problem because you are addicted to a physical thing. Your genitalia and the way you get turned on is completely governed by your mind. This is a very common thing for sex addicts to go through, so you are not alone.
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