Me and my boyfriend have been together for over a year and a half. In the beginning of our relationship there was a lot of sexual attraction and desire on both of our parts. We had known each other for a year and a half before starting to date, we work with eachother on the weekends bartending. My boyfriend has no problems functioning sexually, I on the other hand have multiple problems, some which have arose over the last year and other which have been going on for longer.
My problems include never having experienced an orgasm... Lack of any libido what so ever over the last year... and very VERY painful soreness and inflamation after sex (this is not always the case but happens 8 out of 10 times).
A little bit about us...
I am 21 and my boyfriend is 27, we are very much in love with eachother and plan on being together forever, no questions about that or faithfulness, we are both extremely faithful to one another!
I have had problems with depression for all of my life for as far back as I can remember, extreme anxiety and depression... however this never created a problem with lack of sexual desire until I started taking Prozac (an antidepressant) about 4-5 months into our relationship - This is when I REALLY saw the decline in libido! However I stoped taking the antidepressants for 5 months or so and was only on Prozac for a few months, them Celexa and then wellbutrin ( I kept switching because of the lack of libido - was trying to find one that would have less of an affect on the libido).
Due to years of depression I also used to drink A LOT in high school and college (more than the average college student - I actually had alcoholism and needed a lot of work with couslers and even attended an AA program that my brother was involed in - This depression and alcholoism runs in the family)
I mention my past and present physical and mental heath because I know this may have an affect on what is going on.
The big problems we are experiencing are my lack of any libido, and my pain I get after having sex (which makes me afraid to have sex). The pain burns and stings and I feel like I have tiny cuts on the inside and outside of the vagina and I also get swollen, very red and puffy and this lasts for several hours, usually 5 or 6 and evern after 10 hours I still an sensative to the touch, like when I go to the bathroom.
We use a water based lube to help with the friction since I dont get very wet, this helps me alot (I still get sore when I use it but the act of sex doesnt actually hurt like it would if I were dry).
The problem we face right now though is that with lube, my boyfriend becomes less sesitive and does not enjoy sex, he cannot finish or have an orgasm because it is like a slip and slide of him (even with just enough lube to make it comfortable for me).
Tingle lubes and warming and sensitizing lubes however bother me... I am really really sensitive down there.
Please help! Does anyone experience any of these problems and if so have you figured out a way to fix the problem or at least a temporary fix.
I did have a biopsy done 2 years ago for what my gyno said could be cancer, she did this because I showed possitive for HPV, other than this both of us are clean and have NO STDS.
Please help me, I really hate having to always either decline my boyfriend of sex or have sex to please him and then be in pain all day or use lube and have it be useless for either of us to have sex!