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My boyfriend likes shemales does that make him gay?

Hi, I recently learned that my boyfriend is into shemale porn and it freaks me out! He keeps denying that hes into that stuff, but i've seen that **** on his phone on several occasions. It makes me wonder if he's gay or bisexual and it also makes me wonder if he imagines me with a penis while were having sex. And i know that sounds funny, but it's really really bothering me. I also had the thought that he might leave me for a tranny someday. LOL. Please can anyone tell me if this makes him gay or bi? Are the any "straight" men out there who are also into that so you can explain this to me? Please i want to understand..I love him very much and this ***** :(
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Wow 0_o.... I can't really say that his gay or bi or even bi curious, but I don't think any "straight" men would enjoy or even dare to watch a clip of a girl with a "wee wee": you should be comfortable enough or have that trust to ask him directly what's going on. Goodluck
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Thank you and i have asked him whats going on but he just denies that he's into that stuff. It's pretty frustrating.
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I don't know of any straight men who are into shemale porn. Pregnant porn, MILF porn, masturbation, anime, etc. yes- But that doesn't mean that your relationship is in jeopardy because of it. If your boyfriend isn't open about his sexuality then he is probably very sensitive about it and needs a little time to open up about it. It's possible he's bisexual or bi curious. Also many porn sites show different pictures from separate porn types without being sought out. There are also pop up ads, although you did mention phone so it's much less likely it was an accident. That being said some guys also just get amusement out of such things. My husband likes to send his friend a gif image called meat spin.. which don't look it up- but it's quite homoerotic. He also has pictures of kissing his friend (male) while out at a pub. He isn't bisexual or bicurious, he just loves to get a reaction out of people -same with his friend.

Anyway the point is you need to trust him. Because even IF it comes down to it and he does admit he is bisexual him leaving/cheating on you with a guy won't feel any different than him leaving you for another girl. You need to try to have a non-confrontational, non-emotional talk with him about this. If he feels like you're accusing him of anything he will likely shut down or get upset. It's a hard thing to talk about but you need to feel comfortable in your relationship and he needs to be able to talk to you about difficult things.
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Thank you very much for your input and i do agree that he probably does need a little bit more time to open up about it. I just really hope he doesnt turn out gay!
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I love shemale porn especially if its anime. im straight and alot of my friends who are straight LOVE it as long as you don't like guys in general you in fact are not gay,bi or bi curious. :D
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Im going through pretty much the same thing right now.. I'd say get out of the relationship now.. in these type of situations it's always the woman that ends up getting hurt, emotionally and physically.. its the highest risk group for STD s including HIV / AIDS... I dont care how he may look at it.. if your having sex with a "sheMALE" your having sex with a man so yes hes gay in my opinion... when it was born the dr didn't say "its a girl" he said "IT'S A BOY"!!! if I walked around in all yellow all the time and told ppl i was a banana, and looked like a banana, does that make me a banana? ? No.. it doesn't, why not? Cause I was born a human,not a banana ... same goes for she MALES... A woman has a uterus and can bare children, they dont have prostates, balls, and penis's ... straight men dont like kissing penis.. or having one in there butt... its that simple ... its called a gay man in denial ... go get yourself tested to be safe ... men that are on the DL often have wives or girlfriends to put on a show because they are cowards and can't face who they REALLY are... and play a often deadly game with the life of there unsuspecting wives or girlfriends ... pure selfishness! !! Dont listen to the comment above mine, it's obvious that hes on the DL and is to much of a coward to face the fact that he himself is gay... wish you nothing but the best danv86.. hope this helps alittle ...
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I can understand your point but my question is- when your man can give you names and prices of shemale escort services or makes a statement that he doesnt like guys but chicks with dicks are hot ..well does the girl run now or wait for the inevitable?? Btw you said you enjoy watching it but would you take it further if offered?
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In my opinion it doesn't make him gay and you have nothing to worry about. If you ask me I would suggest getting a strap-on dildo or something and "give it to him". Maybe he likes anal stimulation or is cerious about it, and just because a guy likes anal stimulation doesn't make him gay. Me I love when my girlfriend gives me anal, it gives me the most intense orgasms! I'm also into shemale porn, but I have NO sexual feelings towards other guys! But aslong as your open in your relationship with each other it may take him a while to open up about it, so be patient, it's embarrassing as heck for a guy to open up and admit something like that. It took ALOT for me to open up to my girlfriend! Just make sure he knows you still love him no matter what. he probly denies it because men enjoying anal stimulation is so "taboo," because men are sapposed to give and not receive and blah blah blah. But it DOESN'T make him gay!
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No that does not make him gay, bi, or bi curious. Do you if he watches guy on tranny or tranny on tranny or tranny on girl. Cause tranny on girl is the same as a guy on girl situation. If he was watching that, than its okie, but the rest of em I'm not sure lol... But maybe he's just curious
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I just found out my boyfriend cheated on me with a transsexual. I have been with him for 5 years and he has never mentioned it before. I know he had a lot of anal ex in his previous relationship but he has said he prefers vaginal. He said he did it because he was in a mad head space and wanted to do it to see if he was gay or bi curious. He has said to me he knows now he's straight and it was purely eroticism. In one way i believe him in another im afraid in 10 years time he might decide to come out. How do i know these urges wont come up again? The worst part is the lying and the deceit, he didnt tell me I found out and now I feel cheated and lied to and I just dont know what to do :(
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I just found out my bf of a year and a half cheated on me with Transexuals/Shemales.  I went through his phone and computer.  He has been secretly hooking up with Transexuals he meets on Craigslist.  He also had tons of Shemale porn on his computer. It's sickening!! After being caught he says he's not gay and it was a phase. My stupid self forgave him and now it's only been a few months later, and I caught him looking at the Shemale porn again.  I should have never forgave him the first time. . .  
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I have been with my bf for a lil over 2 years. I found out a year or so ago that hes into shemale porn. In his words it's the only thing that gets him off. He said that he'd like to have a 3some one day with one. He also said that he knew if he was to do it just once he'd always have an itch 4 it. I was honest with him and said that it was too much 4 me. He automatically claimed that he would of never done it anyway and that it was just a fantasy. He says that he's not gay or bi in any way. But, that he has been into this porn alone for 8+ years. He never wants to have sex. It's a week apart. We're in our 20s and I'm use to multiple times a day. I'm still 140lbs and take care of myself. I have been hit on many times by other guys. So, the whole U must have let urself go is out of the question :p lol. I've tried talking to him about my worries he just denies everything and has retracting all of his previous statements now stating that he also likes lesbian porn. I saw a huge list of trannie porn on his playstation recently. My gut feeling is that he's full on gay. Just ashamed or worried what others will say. I'm just not here to play a role. I need the truth!
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HI, I SAW MY BOYFRIEND HAVING ORAL SEX WITH A SHEMALE. HE HAS A COLECTION OF SHEMALE PORNO VIDEOS. HE ONLY WANTS TO HAVE ANAL SEX WITH ME AND LIKES FOR ME TO FINGER F...K HIM DURING SEX. ALSO HE WANTS TO BE STIMULATED DURING SEX AND WANTS TO HEAR ABOUT SHEMALES AND D....KS AND STAFF LIKE THAT. SO I FINALLY SAY I AM LEAVING, HE SAYS HE IS NOT GAY BUT I THINK HE IS. I SEE HOW HE GETS EXCITED WHEN HE SEES A SHEMALE AND ONLY GETS OFF WHEN TALKING ABOUT SHEMALES OR WATCHING SHEMALE PORNO. HE IS GAY
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Hell yes! If you don't want tp join, and I'm sure he will ask you  eventually, get away from him fast!  It's only going to get worse!
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I have a lot of gay friends so to me yes he is gay
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Hi. I am straight man myself who also likes shemale porn. Think its just what your eyes see as attractive, there is no way of defining it. I also have a girlfriend who I have told about this and she is fine with it. I think your boyfriend should just be open about it with you. This may help you understand it better. Don't think you should worry though
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I believe there are different types of men who watch "shemale" porn, ranging from straight men like me who are not interested in the shemale's penis but are attracted to everything else, to bi men who like to suck penis and get penetrated in the wazoo. Your boyfriend ( assuming he's still your BF..) , can fall into any of these "catagories", so maybe you should ask him a few questions regarding his interest in this.

Why would a straight man watch shemale porn? Well, there can be several reasons. In my case, I like women's rear ends and the idea of sticking it in a woman's "wazoo" turns me on. It's nasty, raunchy and sometimes that's the type of sex I want to have. Most women don't like that type of sex, so when I'm feeling "raunchy", I like the idea of a woman that is...purely anal? One hole, her anus. I don't have to plead, hold a summit meeting, pass a bill through congress..A so called "shemale" likes anal, she's use to it, is into it.

Some shemale porn connoisseurs like me, we get turned off by seeing a guy suck a penis or bend over and take it in the "wazoo". We either fast forward the clip or try to choose clips that don't include that type of activity. Mind you, men like me choose to watch "shemales" that look like women, we're not into men with wigs ( transvestites ), much less men ( I don't get sexually aroused at all by the men who are having sex with the shemale). Men are very visual, if a person looks like a sexy woman, the brain registers "woman!".

Human sexuality is a bit more complex than most of us care to recognize. I know that as far as I'm concerned, my attraction to this type of porn is due to my interest in giving anal sex to women, not men. Since most "genetic women" / vaginal women aren't into anal sex, it turns me on to see a hot chick who is as I termed it earlier "purely anal". So, before assuming that your boyfriend is gay or bi, you should ask some questions about what attracts him to this type of porn.
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WELL! OK! This is really hard to explain but u can be sure he is not gay or is attracted to men... if he was looking at gay men on men porn would b a different story... Listen Im a transsexual girl myself Ive been with my bf for  along time . He considers him self straight N would never be interested is a person that looks like a male. Men that find their selfs attracted to transsexuals battle inside their heads with them selfs bcuz they know they are not gay ,they dont like man but r atracted to a feminine body ,female figure ... yes there is a penis there stead of a vagina but when you think about it is just like eating food ... why just eat one type of food? lol If he is just looking at porn then is not soo bad. He is not actually hookin up with people no matter trans or regular... if he cheats then he is a cheater no matter with what type of girl... there is a reason he is with u... Hey my bf likes transgirls n caught him looking at tranny porn wich it bothered me even when Im a transgirl cuz he is looking at other girls... but men r wired that way ... If he is just looking mayb u need to learn to acept him that way ... my Bf watches trans porn regular girl porn n bbw porn :-l at 1st it bothered me cuz he was lookin at vagina porn n bbw porn but he he told me he was happy having sex with me so I learned to understand he is only looking ... guys r like that very curious .. Now we watch porn togueter ... lol... Thats what you need to understand he is straight just may atracted to diferent types of girls.. it doesnt mean he doesnt like u cuz he is with u.. :-) lol I have lesbian friends that watch gay guy on guy porn.. lol think about it this way mayb he is watching tranny on girl porn .. in a way is better for him 2 girls ! stead of looking at at guys penis with a girl lol..
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My boyfriend wants to share she male sex with me , I enjoy watching it in porn but I couldn't share my man with any one else and although I've suggested we could use a strap on he still insists he wants the real thing. He says he isn't gay but when we have sex I have to talk about what a male she will do to him ( if u get my drift ) and that's the only way he can orgasm !
We've only been together for a few months and I know he has never been with a man or male she before . I've told him I couldn't share him , so he says he doesn't want to loose me and yet that's all he talks about and it's making me feel that he will never be truly satisfied with me . Do I arrange for him to try out his fantasy ?
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You are 100 percent correct. Iam straight and I am in the same boat as you! I always fast foward to the anal scenes and skip the other parts of shemale porn. I don't get off on shemale that looks like dudes and I don't like men on men porn. I only like passable beautiful soft shemales. TS Jane Marie is my favorite.
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so my man must be gay he hate gays he don't like to be around them or really talk to them but when i look in his phone he's been hooking up with shemales on craiglist and paying them.i been with this man for a year and a half and i would have never saw this coming he as been sending them pics of his self he has some of them in his phone contact he be texting them to hook up with them, the crazy **** is when i meet the ************ he had a girl this **** crazy to me and i have gay friends but i still got to ask question i don't know what to do cause he don't know i know he would kill me if he knew i knew he do not know i went in his phone,he is a thug well to me a homo thug now but i don't know what to do,do i leave stay say something, and is he gay or bi
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i'm going through the same thing but my bf don't know i know what do i do
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i think you are so right
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If a man is attracted to a penis he is ******* gay period. Why not just watch a porn with a man ******* a chick in the ***? People come on use your mind. All these men claiming they are straight and they like shemale porn is GAY, straight up in denial. For the men claiming they like shemale's because they look like women. Well why not just look at a regular ******* porno? Men that have sex with shemale's or watch shemale porn or sick, twisted and need serious help fast. If they are watching it they are either thinking about having sex with one or already have. There is no such thing as Bi..your either gay or not. I swear you people give excuses on things that are just right in front of your face.. YOUR ******* GAY!!! and its nasty and you can destroy lives.
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I just realized the more I read these forms the more problems I found out about myself. I to use to watch shemale pornagraphy as little as two weeks ago I recently went through some deep dark parts of my life I told my parents I was molested by a friend as a kid and that it scared me and lead me to do other things in life I regret. All I can say is he to probably has experienced something along the lines that lead him to watching that.
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nt all man hu lyk shemale porn r gay, bisxul o bicurious. u cn judge de book by its cover same goes to man hu watch it, u hv to read de book to understnd it as wll as man.
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There is a thing called bi, its called people who have sex with women and men yu dumbo and I like shemale porn because I like seeing that type of stuff and im straight plus shemales have ****
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There is a thing called bi, its called people who have sex with women and men yu dumbo and I like shemale porn because I like seeing that type of stuff and im straight plus shemales have ****
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One legit reason for watching such things is that it can be hot and/or amusing to see how someone who is completely female (besides the penis), reacts sexually to impulses coming from a male part. It's a bit complex and difficult to really explain/understand (it's deep stuff that can take some critical thought to  understand) but either way a guy is not gay just because they get turned on by this stuff. They are gay if they are just sexually attracted to your typical male; specifically to guys who don't look and behave exactly the same as a woman. Sexuality and turn-ons can really be so complicated.
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To clarify the second to last sentence, I'm talking about the transexuals that are 100% mentally female and physically female if it weren't for the penis. Not transvestites; I mean the kind you can't tell the difference with unless you actually see the package.
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