I would say (it is clear he is cheating, from what I read in your first post I would say Cheat, he wants you when he is half a sleep , but when he wakes up he sees what he is doing, then he trys to fall asleep. ) fishy. he is in another relationship and is only having sex with her, he feels if he cums in you it is cheating and where his heart is, is with the one he cums in. I am soooo sorry to say. I was in a relationship like that for 5yrs, not anymore.
I say you can either Give him a taste of his own meds or you can leave and file for divorce, if he is leaving earrings for you to find ,
maybe he wants you to show him you want him and still love him
or
it is his way of telling you it is over . cuz he doesn't have the balls to tell you like a man that it is over for him.
I WISH YOU THE BEST .
An update:
I recently found some earrings in my house. Since I do not wear earrings at all I can safely assume they are not mine. Strange thing is they were sitting right out ion the open on the mantel. Must not be trying very hard. Gosh I am stupid.
Thanks for the responses. Our sex life was great before we got married. Really great. Shortly after marriage our sex life pretty much stopped.
Well it may not be serious to him but clearly its serious to you! And that should make it serious to him.
Was your sex life different before all of this started? Did you USED to have sex a lot or certainly more often than this and there was a sudden drop off? Or has your sex life always been somewhat less than what you would like?
It's hard to say anything for certain, not knowing him, but to give you the generic male perspective there's only a few reasons why a man would not have sex with his wife:
1. He's not interested anymore
2. He's getting it somewhere else
3. There's somethign physically or emotionally going on.
His behavior doesnt' seem to suggest that he's cheating or lost interest in you, also you don't have any suspicions so it's probably safe to cross those off the list.
Yeah his background and upbringing might be partially to blame but if your sex life used to be better and now its changed then it's probably not just about him having a low sex drive. On the other hand, if it's alway kinda been this way then this is just the way he is and it shouldn't come as a complete surprise to you, even if it has decreased
low testosterone and ED don't always go hand in hand. One doesn't necesserily have anything to do with the other, or cause the other either. Being overweight and smoking a lot doesn't help a man feel sexy or get in the mood if he's generally unhealthy or out of shape also. There could be some emotional problem involved that's killing his sex drive or maybe his overall health isn't doing much for it either. It couldn't hurt to see a doctor just to make sure everythings going okay.
Option #4 is that this is just him and his speed. It'd be somewhat uncommon for a young guy like him to not have a bigger sexual appetite but it's not unheard of. Maybe this is just him?