NO SEX DRIVE AFTER HAVING KIDS

[MOMOFALLBOYS]

Just wondering is it normal to loose your sex drive after having kids, naturally not through c-section.

[CurleyGirl7]

It can be comon. The traumatic experience of childbirth can have an effect on your sex drive. When my friend gave birth, she didn't have sex until almost a year later. She was a little put off by the fact that she had passed a human being through her body, and her husband was going to try and stick something back up there. It'll take time for you to build up the "courage" and block out the memories of childbirth, even with the hormones that are excreted to help you forget.
Don't force yourself, and think about all of the positive things...
Just give it time.

[SixStringer]

This is a sensitive area, since the parents are focused on the kids, but the husband still has his needs.  This is where marriages can get shaky if the husband is feeling pent up sexual desires after several months of his wife's pregnancy and then birth with no release in sight.  Kids are wonderful, but the chemistry between husband and wife must not be neglected, since a marriage has to be built on that relationship or in the end the kids will suffer.  If I may be frank, if your sex drive is down, forget intercourse, for now, but keep a handjob and/or a blowjob in mind for your husband, if you can, and eventually your feelings hopefully will improve.  

[jml1986]

The most common reason is a change in hormones after childbirth. For me it was because it was painful, but I found out after I had my hysterectomy that my uterous was tilted really far back and that had been what caused all the pain.

[MOMOFALLBOYS]

hey thanks for the respond, i have a 2 year old and a almost 4 year old...i still havnt gotten my sex drive back...i dontk know what to do..maybe its all in my head since i've been like this for so long now..

[CurleyGirl7]

No problem.
Try relaxing and don't think about yuor kids so much. Try dropping them at a friend's house for the night and just light candles and set the moode for loving. It might help you ease back into the world of sex.

[leah5326]

i too am a mother of boys i have 7  and 1 girl and i share the same problem no sex drive so i dont think its all in your head all i can say is we cant give up hope and as for me i just hope my husband dont either

[MOMOFALLBOYS]

YEAH I'VE GIVEN UP HOPE...MAYBE ONE DAY IT WILL CHANGE...I'M STILL PRETTY YOUNG..

[peggylynn]

Dont give up hope. you know befor you had kids there was something that triggered you . something that made you want to make love for hours with you'r partner...try to find it again seems to me parents lose their self with the kids d dont take time for the pleasure of you'r self I have 5 kids and a husband and after our little girl i did'nt care for it again like you'r self . it hurts you and makes you thing my li is over no more sex. not the case, explore it have fun, find a babysister and have a night out for you and daddy, so yes it is normal. we all go though it but fight it befor you lose you'r self or you'r partner due to the lack of sex

[leah5326]

hi sorry it took me so long to see your comment but im hanging in there i just feel like some times my husband maybe getting sick of me i dont think he's leaving me but sometimes i dont know what he's thinking i just wish it was some kinda help out there for this sort of thing but anyway thanks for your comment

[fung]

Losing sex drive for a certain time after childbirth is not uncommon, but more than a year is too long. I think you should check it with your doctor, if its the hormone doing, than you should treat your hormone. Hormone imbalance can cause another problems if left untreated.