Need Help

[giricubek]

Dear Doctor,

My name is Karthik and I am from India. I am 28 years old. I travel a lot between US and India. I am really embarrassed to discuss about this to anyone. My wife who was with me just for 4 months after marriage has left me, after picking a terrible fight with me and we are separated. We loved for 2 years like anything before getting married! My wife advertised to everyone including my parents and relatives saying I can only masturbate and I can never have sex! This affected me like anything and destroyed my confidence. I can't understand why my erections disappear when I see her private part! I also have lot of foreskin and I am not circumsized, not sure if this is affecting my ability to insert in her!

I searched a lot on the Internet to see if people have similar problems, but I cannot understand why I cannot have sex. My wife told me that i have a terrible problem and I can never have sex and I can only masturbate all my life. I read in the Internet about Traumatic Masturbatory Syndrome, but read it is only for people who masturbate facing down.

I have masturbated for the last ten years since i started masturbating on bed facing up. I masturbate daily. My wife and I tried to have sex a number of times, but my erection stopped when I see her parts. I watch porn films and masturbate and I do not have erection problems when I masturbate with or without seeing porn films.

My wife also thinks I have a small penis, though I have a penis which is six inches long, which I read in the Internet as average size. The first few times when I tried she cried and we gave up on sex, just before entering. But in the last month with her, she co-operated without crying, but I could not maintain my erection.

I don't know if there is a cure to my masturbation syndrome. My wife has left me forever and she has sent me a divorce notice asking for mutual consent.

I am seriously depressed because of my condition. I cannot focus on my work and am developing social phobia. I avoid speaking to people and avoid group meetings. I am leaving office early and am getting severe headaches.

Increasingly, I am getting phobic about my future. I was a confident man before marriage, but my confidence today is at an abysmal low.

I don't know how I am going to cope and what future I have since I am from India and everyone of my relatives know about my problems!

I really need help! I really hope to see a reply to my condition. I am dying in serious depression!

Regards,
Karthik

[maybeidonotknow]

i am not a proffesional but i do have a hypothesis for your problem.my opinion is that masturbation is a outlet for release(of tension or whatever)also in doing so ,stimulus such as thoughts and images (in mental form or pornography)contribute to this ultimate release.i would suggest abstaining from the act of masturbation so the thoughts that are associated with this act will not influence your ability to be physical or intimate.look to being with your wife for the only source of this release and maybe you may succeed in channeling the energy of release through intamacy only.i believe this will work if corruptable thoughts do not enter your psyche for an extended period.( or try viagra ) it is my opinion that values drive the motivations of people.perhaps a honest assesment of what you really want is in order.again...i'm no med pro.i'm messed up too but in a different way.good luck bro

[krishna46]

i am 26 and have been masturbating for the past 12 years. i have never had sex with any girl. i cant stop myself and musturbate 4-5 times a week and sumtimes even twice a day. my bones are weak, im too lazy, weight it too less, eyes gone deep and dark. now i am about to get married, i need to stop it .. but how? can any1 help