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No feeling during sex
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I do not really feel comfortable talking about sex, but here goes: I have no feeling during sex with my husband. I suffer from endometriosis (for which i have had plenty of surgeries already) and sex sometimes can be very painful.we are trying to have another child but i don't ovulate on a regular basis so it's real hard for us with me not enjoying sex, being in pain and not properly ovulating. it's soooo much pressure.
I was raped as a child and while i can get aroused (usually through seeing sex on tv etc or reading erotic novels) and stimulate myself clitoral I don't become wet and neither feel anything through penetrative sex and it feels just "weird" when my husband tries to stimulate me clitoral. We have tried everything. slow, fast, relaxing, taking our time, kissing first, lots of foreplay but nothing. when i do get aroused i mostly don't tell my husband as i am ashamed of it, so clitoral orgasms for me are just a way of relief now. no real joy, it just feels like something that needs venting once in a while.
it has become so bad that my husband now too has lost interest in sex and for him it's just something that needs to be gotten over and done with. He now experiences ejaculation with no climax. it upsets me, as we have been struggling with this for 7 years now.
I have been to plenty of councillors and asked my husband to join but he won't, as he doesn't see anything wrong with himself.please help I am going crazy with all of these hormones and emotions. plus due to all my hormones i have gone from a size to a size 14 and don't feel sexy anymore at all.
I do not really feel comfortable talking about sex, but here goes: I have no feeling during sex with my husband. I suffer from endometriosis (for which i have had plenty of surgeries already) and sex sometimes can be very painful.we are trying to have another child but i don't ovulate on a regular basis so it's real hard for us with me not enjoying sex, being in pain and not properly ovulating. it's soooo much pressure.
I was raped as a child and while i can get aroused (usually through seeing sex on tv etc or reading erotic novels) and stimulate myself clitoral I don't become wet and neither feel anything through penetrative sex and it feels just "weird" when my husband tries to stimulate me clitoral. We have tried everything. slow, fast, relaxing, taking our time, kissing first, lots of foreplay but nothing. when i do get aroused i mostly don't tell my husband as i am ashamed of it, so clitoral orgasms for me are just a way of relief now. no real joy, it just feels like something that needs venting once in a while.
it has become so bad that my husband now too has lost interest in sex and for him it's just something that needs to be gotten over and done with. He now experiences ejaculation with no climax. it upsets me, as we have been struggling with this for 7 years now.
I have been to plenty of councillors and asked my husband to join but he won't, as he doesn't see anything wrong with himself.please help I am going crazy with all of these hormones and emotions. plus due to all my hormones i have gone from a size to a size 14 and don't feel sexy anymore at all.
My wife has similar issues. After Baby #3, she doesn't feel much and cannot have a vaginal orgasm. Tried lots of things but nothing quite works. A few thoughts: use KY jelly or other lubrication. Put it on him first, I'll be he'll like it. ;-) Another idea -- try having him wear a "penis ring" (it may have a slightly different name in the adult store but they'll know what you're talking about). Basically it has a small vibrator which helps stimulate the clitoris so you can perhaps have an orgasm during intercourse. Also, I've read/heard that couples in sex therapy are instructed to be intimate without erotic touching, then just erotic touching, and gradually work your way up to the big show again. That's an oversimplification, but you get the idea.
You should definitely be going to counseling, if only for yourself because you shouldn't be ashamed to be aroused! And of course it would be great if hubby would go along -- if only to improve your shared sex life. One would think that would be motivating to most guys. I hope that helps
You should definitely be going to counseling, if only for yourself because you shouldn't be ashamed to be aroused! And of course it would be great if hubby would go along -- if only to improve your shared sex life. One would think that would be motivating to most guys. I hope that helps
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