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Not able to penetrate!

We have completed 5 months of our married life. My husband had some erectile problem in the beginning. Erection is happening but he could not maintain it not even for a minute. He consulted a doctor and did hormone test. The result  was normal. He told its nothing but a psychological issue. Now it has come to a point that he could  Whenever he tries to penetrate he could just put it on the entrance of the vagina but not beyond that. Is it because my vagina is too small? Or his penis is not hard? Or does the position also matter? I am not feeling much pain also when he tries for penetration. Please advise me what to do. Thanks..
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Also hit up the erectile dysfunction forum for the experts.
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Well I know it's pretty common for men to have this problem in spells even while young. I've experienced it for a couple weeks with my girlfriend and I'm only 20 (performance anxiety vicious circle type thing.) If he's really stressed out that might have triggered it and then once it happens that adds to the stress and it can be really frustrating for everyone. It will probably just go away soon since he's young and otherwise healthy. When it happened to me I still found my gf very sexy and wanted to have sex but became so nervous that i wouldn't be able to get it up once i started to have sex that i psyched myself out and couldn't do it. Anyways just remember that it's most likely not that he finds you unattractive and being sexy didn't have anything to do with it at least for me.
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Being sexy not seems to be helping. Any one who has faced this problem, please help us.
Just want to keep the erection up for a long term. Any solution apart from Viagra.
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He should be able to keep it up for a lot longer than that. You say he is very tense from work, right? I'd start with a massage to try to get him to relax a bit. Also, ask him if he has any fantasies or fetishes and try to fullfill them. Just be as sexy as possible, lol.
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Thanks David. He is 33. The thing is he has started saying that it is because of Vaginismus. But I have heard that it will be extreme painful. For me, it's not painful but a slight discomfort is there.Any idea how deep it should go inside?
When he has some work related tension, he is not at all getting erection. I do not know, if all these affect erection in a healthy man. And for much time a normal man can maintain erection? I have not seen him maintaining erection for more than 3 mins.
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It's hard to penetrate when you're not fully erect. It's probably all part of the same erectile problem which might have to do with performance anxiety. Just be patient with him and don't accuse him of not being attracted to you, realize he's probably very embarrassed about the whole thing. Don't push sex, always remind him he doesn't have to if he doesn't want to. encourage him to stop masturbating though, and focus his sexual energy on your sex life. Maybe get some viagra or something if the problem is really bad and persistent. How old is he by the way?
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