Not too sure on condom size need advice

[stealth98]

Hi

I have met someone who I will be meeting soon (we are seeing each other but its long distance) anyway the topic of sex came up and of course I am still a virgin. I have no clue as to what size condoms I would need to buy? when my penis is not erect its a bit small but when erect I'd say its nearly medium sized. Obviously because I have never had sex before I really wouldn't know what sort of one to get, I don't want it to fall off during sex. Luckily for me I hope to lose my virginity to a girl I really like who is 29 (4 years older than me) instead of a quick fumble. I want to be careful and want to get this right as I don't want to get her pregnant.

Any advice would be great thanks.

[stealth98]

Thanks for the advice, luckily we known each other a fair bit and we know each other and when no means no we respect each others decision. I could quite easily just lay there in the hotel room with her at night and just cuddle and kiss that is just as good. I always feel at ease with her so I think if we ever did it things would be ok.

Once again thanks for your advice Annie

[AnnieBrooke]

Just try to be enthusiastic and go with the flow, not nervous and embarrassed, and if she says "no," she means no.  

[stealth98]

There's only a possibility we might have sex, she don't know I'm a virgin yet and said there no pressure with sex, I said I wasn't really sure about it and made up an excuse that my last few times were bad experiences. But I'm taking some condoms with me to be sure and she has had kids and whenever she has had sex before she does have the pill even just in case an accident happens with the condom. Thanks for the advice on the size of condoms I'm guessing the normal size would be fine for me. I have practised rolling a condom on my penis before but I have a slight issue as I think I have that thing called "Phemosis"? where you can't pull the foreskin all the way back so it was a task to get the condom on without it feeling uncomfortable, I'm sure it'll be alright though.

Any advice on first time sex? I'm excited about it and also s**t scared at the same time.

[AnnieBrooke]

I'd have the talk with her in advance of sex, and make sure she is also on the Pill or has an IUD.  That way, a condom accident is covered by the backup of her birth control.  But do use condoms also.  If you are an average sized guy when erect, get normal sized condoms.  I do think they come in one other size, a slightly smaller size for people in countries that historically have slightly smaller penises than in the U.S., (I read this in a funny article about condoms in Esquire magazine), but I don't even know if those are marketed here.  Practice unrolling one on your penis beforehand, so you don't get it upside-down.  It should roll down like a rolled up stocking cap, not just sit on top like a parasol and stubbornly refuse to unroll.