Aa
Aa
A
A
A
Close
Avatar universal

Orgasm?

How can you know for sure if your girlfriend has reached an orgasm.  I performed oral sex on her yesterday and then fingered her (clit).  Her reactions should indicate she did orgasm, but she isn't sure.   Underneath her was about 6 inches of wet sheets.  Something released.  She has asked me how she would know of she had reached an orgasm.

Thoughts?
10 Responses
Sort by: Helpful Oldest Newest
Avatar universal
If she ejaculated, the size of the wet spot is about right from what you describe.  Because she is inexperienced, she probably didn't realize she was getting ready to orgasm, which can build up to an ejaculation.  The phenomina is often caused by an orgasm sneaking up on you or staying in a 'relaxed' position rather than tightening up your pelvic muscles as happens just prior to orgasm.  If a woman stays relaxed until the orgasm takes hold, the spasms are often so strong that it will lead to an ejaculation.  Some people think it is urine that comes out because it is thin and clear.  In actuality, it is a liquid that is produced within the walls of the vagina that builds up and then is excreted by a flush when she is brought to orgasm.
Helpful - 0
Avatar universal
In woman, wetness has nothing to do with orgasm.  Wetness means that she was arroused.  If she doesn't know if she had an orgasm, she probably didn't.  By the age of 26, most women have had much experience with masterbation and are very familiar with what an orgasm feels like.  If she says she doesn't know, I would say either she is either very sexually oppressed or she didn't want to disappoint you (although if the later is the case, most women would just lie and said they did).    
Helpful - 0
392422 tn?1325789204
It definatly is possible and I wouldn't say it is common but some women have excessive wetness. You may be surprised just how wet some women can get without orgasming.



~S.A.
Helpful - 0
177641 tn?1189755837
It happens, but as far as I know (and experienced), it's infrequent.
Helpful - 0
Avatar universal
Thank you for your response.   She is a virgin and is just learning about these kinds of things (I believe her).   On my encouragement, she has massaged herself with me present.  She can do this for a short period of time and then  feels awkward with me being there.  She will figure it out though.   She told me she "thinks" she has reached orgasm.  Is it common for some women to release enough liquid during orgasm to leave the 6 inch wet spot I mentioned in my inital post?

Buster
Helpful - 0
Avatar universal
sound like she has ur a lucky lad if u got a girl that can *** it pretty rare but then again you wud think she wud of known if she had an orgasm its a pretty distinct feeling
Helpful - 0
392422 tn?1325789204
I agree with both Redneckmom & slow_healer, a woman knows when she has had an orgasm. I would ask your girlfriend if she has ever had one, it sounds as though she may not have. I would suggest that if she is unsure if she has ever orgasmed that the two of you explore and possibly have her try it herself. A lot of women are able to reach orgasm manually with self stimulation and once they've learned what makes them reach orgasm they can instruct their partner to what has made them reach orgasm.

I hope this helped.
~S.A.
Helpful - 0
Avatar universal
wow...your #2 comment is rather harsh!   She is 26 and very mature.  
Helpful - 0
373034 tn?1204154028
If she is saying that she isn't sure, the answer is one of two things:

1.  She absolutely did not have one.  She would know if she did.

2.  She is not mature enough to talk about sex.  In this case she should not be having it.
Helpful - 0
177641 tn?1189755837
It sounds like she ejaculated (whether or not women truly ejaculate like men do is a hot topic for debate - one that I'd rather not get into). A big difference between men and women is that a man's orgasms is usually accompanied by ejaculation, whereas a woman's orgasm is not always accompanied by ejaculation (the two together happen seldom if not rare for many women).

Orgasm for women is more of a full-body feeling of pleasure and release; it's a physical reaction that once it starts, you can lay back and enjoy it. Of course, each woman is different and so experiences between women may vary. But I think generally it feels like a pressure or energy that builds up and then finally releases as a wave of relaxation and pleasure. Women who've had an orgasm don't wonder whether they did - they just know. I hope this helps!
Helpful - 0
Have an Answer?

You are reading content posted in the Sexual Health Community

Top Sexual Health Answerers
139792 tn?1498585650
Indore, India
Avatar universal
st. louis, MO
Avatar universal
Southwest , MI
Learn About Top Answerers
Didn't find the answer you were looking for?
Ask a question
Popular Resources
Millions of people are diagnosed with STDs in the U.S. each year.
STDs can't be transmitted by casual contact, like hugging or touching.
Syphilis is an STD that is transmitted by oral, genital and anal sex.
Discharge often isn't normal, and could mean an infection or an STD.
STDs aren't transmitted through clothing. Fabric is a germ barrier.
Normal vaginal discharge varies in color, smell, texture and amount.