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Penis reduction surgery? options?

I am a 35 year old Caucasian male.  I have what I always thought I had an average penis size.  Evidential this is not the case.  Girls always told me I was huge etc. I just assumed that was what all the girls told guys in general.  I measured my penis from the point where the base meets my torso/waist area approximately 19 cm (7.5 inchs) below my belly button. From this point to the head it is just shy of 24 cm (9.4 inchs) not taking in to effect a slight curve to the left from the pant leg that is stays in most of the time.  The circumference or diameter is16.5cm  (6.6 inchs).  My wife (of nine years) does not want to have sexual intercourse with me anymore as it is painful to her. When we try vaginal sex even with ample lubrication you would think I was killing her and is basically traumatic. We have other types of sex often but not vaginal. Anal sex has always been out of the question from all the partners I have ever dated. This is more from a circumference fear then from length issues.  I can modify my physical position to control how much goes in which an ex wife taught me to do because I hit the cervix and she didn't like that.  When flacid it is much smaller looking and does not  hang out of the bottom of my shorts or bathing suit as I only wear knee length ones to prevent pop outs.  My wife wants me to look into a penal reduction surgery or other option.  She keeps bringing it up and my response has always been why don't you get a vagina circumference increase surgery.  Basically it is a great source of tension in our marriage   I have two young children with her together, she loves me and is fairly attractive, other then this sexual parts compatibility problem she is a pretty cool girl, so divorce is not really a option here.  She is 5' 6'' 125lbs, I am 5'11 and 190lbs.  Any suggestions as to ways to shrink it a bit would be great. I am circumcised.  I would like to improve this sexual incompatibility and keep the same wife.

I posted this in the urology section originally but I thought to post it here as well as I am not sure what type of issue or doctor can assist. (I fixed some spelling and punctuation this time as there does not appear to be a edit capability that I can find)

This is a serious question, so to that guy that advised "I rub bologna on it because the nitrates in it will chemically shrink my penis temporarily"  While amusing..... it is not helpful. I see this type of what to do question has been asked a few times over the years here and the community answers are always people making a jokes or the question is never legitimately answered.  

Thanks much

Brad
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It is also important to remember if your wife does have Vaginismus lack of ample foreskin can also make the problem work as abrasions would cause the spasms to "activate"  I doubt Vaginismus is the problem.  Circumcision dramatically alters sex and reduces pleasure for a man causes dysfunction, and causes pain in women.  That skin is supposed to be there!  There are many ways to restore the foreskin that are essentially free, and some devices that can be used that are under $100.  $100 seems pretty cheap compared to surgery, and penis reduction?  No way penis reduction is insane.  It is a betrayal to all of us average guys :-)
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Please see my post for anyone that is circumcised.  lack of penile mobility can and will cause irritation and outright pain for women.  Penis size does not even matter.  What matters is how much skin was taken during your circumcision.  Even with very generous lubrication you are talking about skin rubbing on skin and can be extremely aggravating if the woman is extra sensitive.  Foreskin allows the penis to "glide" so that the shaft moves but the skin does not.  The reason some men don't have as much of a problem is likely from a "loose" circumcision where the doctor left ample skin.  Circumcision is a fraud.  I am working to restore my foreskin right now non surgically basically because my wife (who is not particularly tight, and has an averaged sized vagina) can only have sex with me for a 10-20 minute time span.  We were finally able to discover the source of the pain.  It is worth mentioning that I am 6 1/4 inches and 5 inches in diameter (not particularly big)
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I have heard, that some monks stretch their penis and wind around their bodies. They do it to reduce libido and sexual act. They are one of the sect of naga Bawa. (naked monks)
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I stumbled across this post and though it's old I thought I'd comment anyway. First off I just want to say thanks to sisterp229! That racist mess about black girls being bigger had caused problems since we became slaves and were "shown off" various gatherings! Now about this issue... I really feel for these guys because hurting someone you care about like that is horrible to go through. I had a friends who did get the surgery that was about a foot. They used meds doing recovery to stop the erections and the tucking procedure took off a few inches as well as some girth. Keep in mind a males penis is partially inside of him when he isn't erect anyway. There was also fatty tissue and veins removed and he conceived a child AFTER the surgery. It was done by a doc down South (TX I believe), but I'm sure there are doctors all over that can perform this surgery. It's like getting circumcised, in a way...
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You're an idiot. The max possible length of a grown human being (not preteen) is about 12 inches. I was 9.5 inches when I was 17 years old. Close to 20 years old I began experimenting with hanging barbells tied to a belt and wrapped around my penis. About a decade of hanging weights intermittently, I am a little over 12 inches. One cannot have something larger that 12 inches unless he were to hang weights from his penis all of his life. Everyone looks smaller than me, and some guys in porn that are big are usually a few inches or more shorter. If you stretch something long enough, naturally it will elongate permanently. It's physics. I don't see how it's at all possible for a man to have anything close to 12 or more naturally however.
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if a woman is extremely turned on her vagina becomes relaxed and able to easy take the average "large" penis- if this were not true, giving birth would be impossible!... do things to make her feel this way...suck on her ***** and rub her G spot until she is orgaziming repeatedly and ejaculating...once she reaches that point she will be begging you to slide that big penis into her. Lots of these comments are from people in long term relationships. Makes me wonder if it is not so much the penis size but the boredom..bordon in the bedroom will lead to tight, dry, unrelaxed vaginas! turn her on and she will love it!
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I agree with that 100% I'm a 30 ur old woman and I wouldn't have my husband do anything and he is huge also not as big as yours but I love the pain once he's got me going. The only thing is he can't go inside me all the way or go to hard when he bends me over and hits from the back. Just take it easy go slower.
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