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Please give advice on sex life issue
My wife and I have been together for 5 years, and married for 1. Our sex life is currently nonexistent. First, I want to be very clear, I am not going to cheat on her. I have zero interest in being with any other woman, in fact, the idea legitimately repulses me.
The problem is, my wife has very severe back pain frequently. Most times we attempt sex, in any position, the discomfort becomes too much for her, to the point she is actually scared to try. Seeing her visibly in pain effectively kills my libido at these times. However, I am incapable of shutting off my desires the rest of the time. Occasionally, we can do mutual masturbation, but my wife has gotten to the point she feels so badly about me being denied -through no fault of hers - she doesn't even want to be naked around me. She said she feels terrible if I get aroused and she cannot participate, so she shuts down completely, instead.
Here is the rest of the problem: while I am able to settle for masturbating like a teenager until she is feeling well enough, this upsets my wife. I assured her, and I know she understands, this is my substitute for her unavailability. But, she feels guilty and beats herself up. I thought taking matters into my own hand, so to speak, was a decent solution.
What, if anything, can I do to make things better for us?
The problem is, my wife has very severe back pain frequently. Most times we attempt sex, in any position, the discomfort becomes too much for her, to the point she is actually scared to try. Seeing her visibly in pain effectively kills my libido at these times. However, I am incapable of shutting off my desires the rest of the time. Occasionally, we can do mutual masturbation, but my wife has gotten to the point she feels so badly about me being denied -through no fault of hers - she doesn't even want to be naked around me. She said she feels terrible if I get aroused and she cannot participate, so she shuts down completely, instead.
Here is the rest of the problem: while I am able to settle for masturbating like a teenager until she is feeling well enough, this upsets my wife. I assured her, and I know she understands, this is my substitute for her unavailability. But, she feels guilty and beats herself up. I thought taking matters into my own hand, so to speak, was a decent solution.
What, if anything, can I do to make things better for us?
COMMUNITY LEADER
Google breath to orgasm. You will find some web site giving details of breathing. Brief explanation; Breath simultaneously. Sit cross legged facing each other. you may cross you legs on each other or sit in chair facing each other. Both should inhale and exhale simultaneously. another one is breath alternatively. When one breathes, the other exhales. and third is circular. Get details from the web sites. This will enhance rapport with each other.It is likely that back pain becomes a superficial issue. Tension between member creates back pain. This may be the cause of back pain.
COMMUNITY LEADER
Logical steps you must have taken would be as follows.
Tried to treat back pain.
Tried different postures.
Master bating each other.
Your wife may do female deer exercise. This may help her to increase her libido and may make her adjust herself in a way that she can participate in intercourse.
Try to find another postures.
Google, yoga postures for back pain.
Google pillate techniques for back pain.
Chair tai posters for back pain.Searching the above websites you may find some technique which will help you to solve your problem.
Tried to treat back pain.
Tried different postures.
Master bating each other.
Your wife may do female deer exercise. This may help her to increase her libido and may make her adjust herself in a way that she can participate in intercourse.
Try to find another postures.
Google, yoga postures for back pain.
Google pillate techniques for back pain.
Chair tai posters for back pain.Searching the above websites you may find some technique which will help you to solve your problem.
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