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Hi my name Is jackie, i'm 21 years old and i'm addicted to masterbating/masterbation.
I know this is in the wrong catagory, i couldnt find anything even close to this topic.
Well my first G-spot orgasm happened last year of 09 and ever since then iv'e been Hooked.
I love how I feel when I am getting off But I wish I didn't have the urge "constantly",
the kind where you almost have to do it just so that uncomfortable discomfort feeling can go away for a couple of minutes until you have to do it again.
The only problem Is sometimes I'll catch myself doing it all day long.
I'll have to get off multiple times before I am even fully satisfied.
It's becoming exhausting and this is coming a even bigger problem for me since my boyfriend doesn't want to try Oral sex on me, and that's my favorite way to reach a high orgasm.
I can't get off with just plain sexual intercourse, or fingering
I find myself always wanting that g-spot orgasm
I have a problem and i'm in desperate need of help.
if any of you can relate to this Feel free to e-mail me at ***@****
Sincerly,jackie
I know this is in the wrong catagory, i couldnt find anything even close to this topic.
Well my first G-spot orgasm happened last year of 09 and ever since then iv'e been Hooked.
I love how I feel when I am getting off But I wish I didn't have the urge "constantly",
the kind where you almost have to do it just so that uncomfortable discomfort feeling can go away for a couple of minutes until you have to do it again.
The only problem Is sometimes I'll catch myself doing it all day long.
I'll have to get off multiple times before I am even fully satisfied.
It's becoming exhausting and this is coming a even bigger problem for me since my boyfriend doesn't want to try Oral sex on me, and that's my favorite way to reach a high orgasm.
I can't get off with just plain sexual intercourse, or fingering
I find myself always wanting that g-spot orgasm
I have a problem and i'm in desperate need of help.
if any of you can relate to this Feel free to e-mail me at ***@****
Sincerly,jackie
Well you're still yoing. Many woman, really most of them, will never have an orgasm during sex. If they do it'll be pretty rare.
Now if you're in a relationship with someone you're completely comfortable and happy with who excites you... you may be able to experiment around a little, find some positions and actions that you like and enjoy sex. Sometimes you may orgasm or you may find something that works great for you and you'll have frequent orgasms.
For a lot of woman though, the best way they'll reach orgasm and somtimes the only way is through masturbation or oral sex.
One thing is almost guaranteed though, if you're nervous and freaked out and can't really relax and enjoy what you and your bf are doing it's going to make it that much harder for you to have an orgasm with him. So try to relax and enjoy it.
If you're nervous or freaked out by the idea of it then relax, you don't have to have sex or do anything you don't want to do or aren't comfortable doing. It's okay not to have sex.
Take things slow, only do as much as you're comfortable doing and try to not get yourself worked up into a frenzy about it. Because the more you TRY to orgasm and the more your boyfriend TRIES to give you one the more it becomes like a job and a chore and the more pressure you're putting on both of you. Experiment a little, find out what you like and what turns you on and do that for a while.
What do you mean when you said you tried it with several other guys? Do you mean you cheated on your boyfriend? For some woman an orgasm is as much emotional as it is physical. So staying in one relationship with one man that you can really work with and enjoy being with might help as well.
Use protection and birth control always. And relax. Try getting some oral sex from him and see if that doesn't help
Now if you're in a relationship with someone you're completely comfortable and happy with who excites you... you may be able to experiment around a little, find some positions and actions that you like and enjoy sex. Sometimes you may orgasm or you may find something that works great for you and you'll have frequent orgasms.
For a lot of woman though, the best way they'll reach orgasm and somtimes the only way is through masturbation or oral sex.
One thing is almost guaranteed though, if you're nervous and freaked out and can't really relax and enjoy what you and your bf are doing it's going to make it that much harder for you to have an orgasm with him. So try to relax and enjoy it.
If you're nervous or freaked out by the idea of it then relax, you don't have to have sex or do anything you don't want to do or aren't comfortable doing. It's okay not to have sex.
Take things slow, only do as much as you're comfortable doing and try to not get yourself worked up into a frenzy about it. Because the more you TRY to orgasm and the more your boyfriend TRIES to give you one the more it becomes like a job and a chore and the more pressure you're putting on both of you. Experiment a little, find out what you like and what turns you on and do that for a while.
What do you mean when you said you tried it with several other guys? Do you mean you cheated on your boyfriend? For some woman an orgasm is as much emotional as it is physical. So staying in one relationship with one man that you can really work with and enjoy being with might help as well.
Use protection and birth control always. And relax. Try getting some oral sex from him and see if that doesn't help
hello,its a little bit embarassin for me to write this but after i read ur response previously i think you might b able to help me with my problem.
i never had sexual intercourse not because i cling to bein a virgin but i freak out of penetration and dunno why !
apart from the fear of penetration here's my main prob:
each time i gt into the process with my bf i never gt any orgasm evertho he tries every possible way i just stop bein excited after few mins :(!! at first i thought he hes nt that good so i tried it with several other guys bt he turned out to b the best !
i think the problem is with me !the only way through which i get orgasm is through masturbation!thank u for helping me in advance!
i never had sexual intercourse not because i cling to bein a virgin but i freak out of penetration and dunno why !
apart from the fear of penetration here's my main prob:
each time i gt into the process with my bf i never gt any orgasm evertho he tries every possible way i just stop bein excited after few mins :(!! at first i thought he hes nt that good so i tried it with several other guys bt he turned out to b the best !
i think the problem is with me !the only way through which i get orgasm is through masturbation!thank u for helping me in advance!
wow this made me tear up.
First of all It never dawned on me that the past could have any affect on me Today.
Secondly, How can I thank you enough for taking some time out of your day just to write me back? This shows me that you're a very understanding and caring person, and I appreciate it more than you'll ever know.
Yes I have been through some serious amount of trauma, and other personal things that I'd like to open up to you about.
I never really talk about it because I feel like maybe I just need to get over it since it was in the past, and There are some people who have had it worse than me, and i should appreciate life more but I know I'm just getting worse and to a certain degree I do care enough about my mental and physical health..
My looks mean a lot to me, always have, that Is why I'm going to make a appointment to see a psychiatrist I've been thinking about it for awhile now just haven't took the time to actually make it happen. I'm at the point where I am tired of looking Depressed, and being depressed or Mad.
I tend to have a temper as-well, it's multiple things other than masturbation that are affecting my life
& Yes my sex life *****, i will admit that much loll.
My boyfriend won't even try to eat me out and I have mentioned of us using whip cream or any other flavors to prevent him from continuing to perform oral sex on me, But he straight up refuses
.. to answer your question, Ya i probably wouldn't masturbate so much if i had it.
It's like I'm a good girlfriend but I have had thoughts of having oral sex with my roommate Brittany, she's bisexual and wouldn't care to do it to me. I have restrained myself though because I love this man and i don't want to mess things up with him.
Even though I am a bisexual myself, I still consider it cheating and i feel guilty and like a cheater even having these thoughts to begin with.
anyways Do you have a number I can reach you at?
I know that sounds crazy considering we dont really know eachother but
you have helped me out so much and i'd like to further this conversation with you Verbally, and not just over the internet if it's Okay?
Just write me back.
Thank you,
Love,
Jackie,
First of all It never dawned on me that the past could have any affect on me Today.
Secondly, How can I thank you enough for taking some time out of your day just to write me back? This shows me that you're a very understanding and caring person, and I appreciate it more than you'll ever know.
Yes I have been through some serious amount of trauma, and other personal things that I'd like to open up to you about.
I never really talk about it because I feel like maybe I just need to get over it since it was in the past, and There are some people who have had it worse than me, and i should appreciate life more but I know I'm just getting worse and to a certain degree I do care enough about my mental and physical health..
My looks mean a lot to me, always have, that Is why I'm going to make a appointment to see a psychiatrist I've been thinking about it for awhile now just haven't took the time to actually make it happen. I'm at the point where I am tired of looking Depressed, and being depressed or Mad.
I tend to have a temper as-well, it's multiple things other than masturbation that are affecting my life
& Yes my sex life *****, i will admit that much loll.
My boyfriend won't even try to eat me out and I have mentioned of us using whip cream or any other flavors to prevent him from continuing to perform oral sex on me, But he straight up refuses
.. to answer your question, Ya i probably wouldn't masturbate so much if i had it.
It's like I'm a good girlfriend but I have had thoughts of having oral sex with my roommate Brittany, she's bisexual and wouldn't care to do it to me. I have restrained myself though because I love this man and i don't want to mess things up with him.
Even though I am a bisexual myself, I still consider it cheating and i feel guilty and like a cheater even having these thoughts to begin with.
anyways Do you have a number I can reach you at?
I know that sounds crazy considering we dont really know eachother but
you have helped me out so much and i'd like to further this conversation with you Verbally, and not just over the internet if it's Okay?
Just write me back.
Thank you,
Love,
Jackie,
An addiction to masturbation can be a sign of some sort of emotional distress. Is there anything in your past that might cause you to be compulsive like this? Any molestation or abuse or trauma or anything like that? The need to control and manage trauma or emotions can come out in many ways.
Sometimes we just find ourselves addicted to things that give us pleasure. Although constantly masturbating all day long can't be a sign of anything good so I would suggest maybe checking with your doctor or, perhaps better, a psychologist. They'd be able to help you understand the compulsion better than I could. Not being a doctor I can't really give you a clearer answer but I would suggest or theorize that any sort of compulsive behavior is a sign of something else. I.e. I doubt it's as simple as "I really like it so I do it all the time."
From what I've read, compulsive masturbation is often due to the person avoiding real physical and emotional intimacy which doesn't seem to be the problem in your case but as I said, it might be residual problems you're tying to manage from something in your past. You could try incorporating your boyfriend into your masturbation time, maybe make it a little more intimate for the both of you and that might help you get off the way you want to and then you won't need to do it so much. I only acknowledged your boyfriend's lack of interest in performing oral sex because it seems like maybe if he did that, and it pleased you and gave you the orgasms you wanted you might not feel compelled to masturbate so much. But if the compulsion is due to something deeper than just a strong sexual desire to orgasm that probably won't make much of a difference.
I came across a website that might help shed some light on the subject:
http://www.sexualcontrol.com/masturbation-addiction.html
Maybe give that a read and see if it has any more information for you. But certainly a trip to a psychologist might be a good idea. They would have more information as to the underlying emotional and mental mechanisms that tend to cause this sort of compulsion.
Sometimes we just find ourselves addicted to things that give us pleasure. Although constantly masturbating all day long can't be a sign of anything good so I would suggest maybe checking with your doctor or, perhaps better, a psychologist. They'd be able to help you understand the compulsion better than I could. Not being a doctor I can't really give you a clearer answer but I would suggest or theorize that any sort of compulsive behavior is a sign of something else. I.e. I doubt it's as simple as "I really like it so I do it all the time."
From what I've read, compulsive masturbation is often due to the person avoiding real physical and emotional intimacy which doesn't seem to be the problem in your case but as I said, it might be residual problems you're tying to manage from something in your past. You could try incorporating your boyfriend into your masturbation time, maybe make it a little more intimate for the both of you and that might help you get off the way you want to and then you won't need to do it so much. I only acknowledged your boyfriend's lack of interest in performing oral sex because it seems like maybe if he did that, and it pleased you and gave you the orgasms you wanted you might not feel compelled to masturbate so much. But if the compulsion is due to something deeper than just a strong sexual desire to orgasm that probably won't make much of a difference.
I came across a website that might help shed some light on the subject:
http://www.sexualcontrol.com/masturbation-addiction.html
Maybe give that a read and see if it has any more information for you. But certainly a trip to a psychologist might be a good idea. They would have more information as to the underlying emotional and mental mechanisms that tend to cause this sort of compulsion.
He says he can't handle the taste
which Is odd to me because I clean thoroughly with soap, and douches.
but that's besides the point, I don't need oral I need to stop masturbating so much.
I have a appreciation for what you just said and I agree with it, But I wish you would have acknowledged my disorder Instead of what my boyfriend does and doesn't do
That's slightly a problem but that we can work through, I cant stop masterbating lol.
Thanks for replything though.
Still needing advice please someone, write me back :(
which Is odd to me because I clean thoroughly with soap, and douches.
but that's besides the point, I don't need oral I need to stop masturbating so much.
I have a appreciation for what you just said and I agree with it, But I wish you would have acknowledged my disorder Instead of what my boyfriend does and doesn't do
That's slightly a problem but that we can work through, I cant stop masterbating lol.
Thanks for replything though.
Still needing advice please someone, write me back :(
Is there any particular reason why your boyfriend doesn't want to perform oral on you? Do you perform oral on him? If you do it only seems fair that he'd return the favor.
For lack of a better phrase he should suck it up and do what makes you happy if he wants you to do what makes him happy.
For lack of a better phrase he should suck it up and do what makes you happy if he wants you to do what makes him happy.
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