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Porn Addiction?
I'm worried that my boyfriend is addicted to porn. He watches it on his phone and on the computer. It's disturbing to me but I dont let it get to me. He doesnt know that I know he's watching it and he hides it from me even though i know he's doing it. At first I thought hey he's 19 it's normal but now he's paying 30 dollars for this live webcam porn thing and i dont know how to react. Is he addicted or is this normal?
Watching porn is normal. Most of us have done it at some point in our lives. I'm not ashamed to admit it. When it becomes a problem is when your partner starts paying for porn, because free porn on the internet is "boring". Also when your partner is not able to get hard to have sex with you. Some of us think that intimacy should be between two people who are in love. It shouldn't involve other people (including porn) unless agreed by both parties.
Thank you all for your reply's! Yes I am the girl who doesn't always want to have sex with him when he's in the mood. It's a problem I'm trying to workk out. I have been with him for three years and it's never been this way before until I started on this birth control 9 months ago. I know that has to do with my problem. I also work full time and have a **** ton of stress in my life right now. Thank you Magdelenna for thinking the same way as I do. Haha. Actually since I have found out how much he watches porn I have been completely turned off by it. I keep thinking about it and it makes me not want to have sex with him even more. I love him and he's very attractive i just think keeping this bottled up inside is bothering me the most I just feel bad for going through his things. I really had no right to do that. I'm glad to hear that what he's doing is normal though. Thanks to all! =]
Nicole, This is totally normal. Trust me. Guys have to ejaculate to keep their sanity. After I read this I wanted to ask you a question about your previous post. Could boyfriend masturbating to porn, be perhaps, another factor of your non interest in sex lately? We women don't like competition and if you are exhausted when you come home from work and catch him "****-dribbling" to porn, you probably are not feeln the love for you. Ya feel me? I know for a fact, just read a few of my posts! lol. Hey, but all joking aside, maybe you should really evaluate this situation and ask yourself once again, "Why am I being benched! And by porn!?" Jeez and you are gorgeous! i honestly cannot figure it out with some of these dudes out there. Or maybe you are actually the one who is not really interested in him anymore. If you ask me it is looking like it is heading that way from your posts. ***** to ask this but, if it came down to it would you drop this guy if another more respectful, understanding, handsome, older or younger, gentlemen came along. Definitely don't lock down on someone who may not respect or understand you. I am one to talk. Fo Sho! Oh and he is like ten years younger mentally, so remember that when you are together. No matter how mature he thinks he is, it is just a scientific fact about men. I was once told, by my own father believe it or not, that men don't even begin to "think" until they hit 30. lol. I have seriously am finding this to be true with the men I know and have met! So a rule of thumb, All guys Need to release this "tension" someway and somehow. Maybe the respect isn't gone completely but it not there when he is getting his rocks off to random girls.Whatever you do do not compare yourself to them either. They are not real to him. You are the real deal.
Hey watching porn is a pretty normal thing. If its true what frank says that you refuse your bf sexual advances all the time. Then him masturbating as a way to release is a normal thing. Its calming down his urge to be intimate but, at the same time watching porn actually reduces your sex drive and performance. So if decreased performance is seen its because of him watching porn.
Wait, arent you the girl who refuses your boyfriends sexual advances all the time? He clearly needs a release, if you are not willing to give him one you should at least let him masturbate.
Hey, that is actually not so bad. Typically, porn addicts are middle age married men. I read this somewhere. But it does not mean that young guys can not be addicted either. At 20, and please do not take this the wrong way, you are still young and while you may have many experiences, communication is not at its best. I say confront him. Politely sit down and talk about it. Tell him you do not like that he watches porn and that you wish he will stop doing it so often. I say talk it out and express what you both feel and come to a compromise. I watch some everyone once in a while and I have watched some with my GF just to change things a bit, but we find that we usually turn it off right away and make our own scene, no cameras though. In the end, do you want to be with a man who does not pay attention to you and rather buy porn online?
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That sounds pretty normal,,,but,, If it starts affecting his life IE: hinders his job or commitments, dominates his thoughts all day,, then he may need sexual addiction help.
Don't take this all too personally though just because he likes to watch other women have sex.
Don't take this all too personally though just because he likes to watch other women have sex.
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