Pornography, strip bars and my guy

[GCHikerGirl09]

My boyfriend looks at pornorgraphy, often and spends more time pleasuring himself than we do being intimate together in any given week.  We live quite a distance from each other but see each other every weekend and 1 day during the week.  Every time he masturbates he is looking at online pornography.  He does this on average 2 to 3 times a week.  He has turned me down for sex because he's already pleasured himself before I got there.  This bothers me and makes me feel as if he is replacing our sex with masturbation and online pornography.  I also saw on his computer where he's been to a website called playboymanager.com which seems to be an online game where you manage playboy playmates and trade cards with nude pictures of these women...a video game with porn.  

In addition to all of this he is really pressing the issue of going to strip bars.  He used to go all the time...to the point that the strippers knew him by name!  He knew before we got together that I would not stand for this behavior because to me going to strip bars and touching a naked woman other than me is cheating.  I know most strip bars you can't tough but the one he likes to go to you can touch them.  This behavior is VERY upsetting to me.  He's made comments about my body that he says he's "teasing me" where he's told me that my boobs are sagging, my tummy is too big because it isn't flat and on and on.  BUT then he's also told me that my boobs are better than 90% of the ones he sees in the porn that he looks at.  

Not to mention that every single time we go out of the house he's looking.  Obviously looking...turning his head side to side and nearly turning completely around when he sees some attractive woman.  I have asked him before what he's looking for and he just tells me "I'm a looker.  I always have been" ... is he looking for someone else, someone better?  Why is he doing this????

What do I do with all of this?!  I'm feeling more and more insecure with myself and am growing to hate him over these issues.  HELP!!!!!

[Judy246]

I'm going to give you my honest opinion and it's only an opinion ok...he might have an addiction to porn and to be honest with you...I'd dump. The thought that I am being replaced by porn, strip clubs, checking out girls in front of me...unexceptable and not the type of guy I want.  The foundation of all relationships  is trust and we women have that six sense when something is not right, so use your judgment. Communications is key, at the right time, ask tell him how you feel. Tell him that you are starting to feel neglected and what do you have to do to get him more interested in the bedroom?

If he continues with this behavior, you need to re-evaluate whether you want to say with him or find someone who has better moral values....once again, just my opinion....good luck.