Posting on behalf of my partner

[Keekz21]

Hi there
We have been together for 1 year now
And when we first started sleeping together it was great. In the last 6-7 months no matter how tired he is or we'll slept he can never seem to last that long. He says he can't hold on to it. It's effecting our relationship and I just can't help but get angry with him and then he gets annoyed and doesn't want to have sex with me. Is this just down to pure laziness? Or does he need to take some kind of magic love potion? We have tried de sensitising before we have intercourse.
Don't know what to do please help

[Dalubaba]

It is true that any disharmony between a couple will demolish libido. Even faint expectation of rejection may kill the libido of the partner.

[Chima7]

You said in your post:

"It's effecting our relationship and I just can't help but get angry with him and then he gets annoyed and doesn't want to have sex with me."

You said yourself that you get angry with him which annoys him and makes him not want to have sex with you. Those are your own words, I'm not making this up. I'm sorry if that hurts you to point out what you said, but you have to take some responsibility for how you react when he's unable to perform. Cause if you are at all unsupportive about it, he will not take that well and his ego will be shot. I knew a guy like this and whenever it didn't work, I never made him feel bad about it. Because I knew it would make the problem worse. That's why I'm urging you not to make the problem worse by getting angry and annoying him.

[Czezcky]

Please specify: is the problem premature ejaculation or loss or erection? Or both? Sometimes a guy will allow himself to climax early because he feels his erection slipping away. You may not even notice it starting to go soft but he will. This may be early onset ED. However, if it is merely premature ejaculation and there are no problems with erection, then you need to have more sex so that he gets desensitized. It will take up to three or four times a day for about a week before he improves. Then he should be reset and you can return to your normal pace.

[Keekz21]

We still have sex all the time if just not as good koz he doesn't last that long.  Thank u remar for looking at it from my point when I mention love potion I was trying to lighten up the situation (of course I know there is no love potion) still can't believe you chima7 that I would traumatize him ha u don't know me I am not like that I was just explaining that's the scenario in the post that is all I do not get angry with him to the point where he has no confidence!

[Keekz21]

I was just explaining it like that in the post I am not a cruel person towards him. I am a good partner. I don't give him grief about it! Who do u think I am! And I was only saying about love potion. We have been to doctors and they can't do much.

[remar]

Ask him to take care of your needs first. You can try again after awhile too. Condoms can also help some men last longer.

[Chima7]

The more you get mad at him, the less likely he will be able to work right again because he will have been traumatized by your poor treatment of him. Guys are very insecure about their manhood and when it stops working, they get very upset about it to the point where any kind of negativity about it from his partner will only compound the problem exponentially.  You need to be more supportive and patient with him to help him understand that this is probably a medical issue which requires a doctor's input. If you want him to get over this, you need to quit making him feel worse than he already does about it. I'm sure his ego is shot to hell and you're not helping right now with this attitude.

[AnnieBrooke]

You getting angry is only going to compound the problem.  Does he have a blood-pressure issue?  It is not laziness, and he doesn't need a love potion, he needs to see a doctor.