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Risks of safe sex with prostitute

I've been married for over 20 years and always faithful to my wife.  AFAIK so has she.  I recently began seeing prostitutes, always using a condom during intercourse.  Both giving and receiving oral without a condom.  Heavy kissing, etc.  

What are the risk factors I should be most worried about?  From my reading I know HIV and most serious STDs are not an issue but wanted to know what else I should be thinking about (and possibly passing on to my wife).
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One can find many techniques to generate more interest in an old couple. If both cooperate,they won't need to go our for sexual satisfaction.
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Unprotected oral you need to worry about chlamydia, gonnorrhea, and NGU.  Also urinary tract infections.  Definitely get tested for these.
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If you are seeing prostitutes regularly, or even occasionally - even with condom usage. Schedule a full sexual health check up for yourself after every single encounter no matter the activity. This gives you peace of mind, a regular time line to know when something is contracted and is curious to the sex workers as well as your wife.

As no one has yet mentioned: even with condom usage genital crabs can still be contracted and I think also genial warts. There's also a risk of the condom splitting.

I'm no expert, but I hope this helps.
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I'm not going to preach or pretend I understand because I don't. I haven't been in your situation, or even a similar one, but I just wanted to pose the topic of the emotional implications not just the physical health issues.

Especially if you are unfortunate enough to contract something from one of them, having to deal with the implications yourself but also with your wife and the emotional impact that will have on you both, possibly other family members.

Should your marriage breakdown there's those implications emotional, financial not just the issue of an sti.

There are people such as relate in the UK that offer relationship advice. I know you may think this is odd but a sex therapist? Marriage counselling? it depends on what you want. Maybe there's more to you seeing prostitutes that you consciously realise at present.

Also I don't personally know of any, but there are more established services available, possibly more expensive, that offer sexual services from people  who are regularly health checked throughly. I'm sure if you are determined you will be able to locate one. You could also consider exploring other sexual outlets that offer less risk through direct sexual contact such as a dominatrix? Even considered your wife may be more sexually hungry than you realise? If you feel, only you know her, you could suggest spicing things up. Swingers clubs, often people don't swap partners but enjoy the environment. There's a whole world to explore, alone or together the choices are endless.

I must be honest I'm not myself involved in these 'scenes', but I know people who are and have had long happy marriages, and failed short term relationships. Sex is personal, you and your partner are the only people who's wishes matter. (With in the law)

I wish you good health, happiness and fulfilment.
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dude youre married.. stay where its safe. You can get EVERYTHING from oral sex, and kissing. ive seen syphillis and gonorrhea, herpes, of the mouth. You need to protect your wife.. thats not fair too her!
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Unless these prostitutes have just been tested, and have test results to show you, you don't know anything about their health.

The client they had just previous to you may have given them a gift that they then gave to you.

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Symptoms of herpes may not appear for years but one can be a carrier, infecting others.Symptoms may manifest any time.,
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Definitely herpes, herpes can be passed mouth to genitals and vice versa
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