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    Im a 13 year old boy and i mastebate and  i feel bad when i do it but im wondering if i have sex if the feeling will go away and i will stop masterbateing all together and i already chose to not be abstenit (bad spelling) i would love to know if this will help or not please leave me some comments to help me......

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                                                                                                                   A 13 year old boy
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At 13 years old I'd be surprised if you didnt masturbate. Its perfectly normal and perfectly healthy for you to be doing it. Sex is something that should be shared with someone you care about not in order to change a habit. Not being abstinent is your choice but dont chose to have sex at 13 just because you think it will take away the feeling of wanting to masturbate. If anything it will probably make you want it more. The release you feel is better left with yourself at such a young age. Plus you might regret it later on in life. Also, its normal to be curious about what sex would feel like but dont be tempted to do something your not fully sure you can handle. just like everyone says you dont want to be that 1% that ends up getting someone pregnant even though you used a condom and thought you were doing everything right. Trust me on that one. You might even find you will feel worse after having sex than you did after you masturbated.

I hope i helped you.
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its normal so dont feel bad just dont get caught or u will feel really bad also dont rush into having sex with strangers get to know a good girl friend of yours and pop your cherry when the time is right u will know when also note if u dont use your penis u lose itso maintain a healthy sex life when your older practice safe sex .
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There is nothing wrong with privately masturbating. Many people do it and many people don't. Just make sure you are totally alone so that you don't get humiliated. But do NOT have sex. I am eighteen and I am speaking to you as a fellow (adult) teenager. If you get a girl pregnant, you and she will be dealing with it for the rest of your lives. I know you don't want that, believe me it is DIFFICULT. You don't need to be concerned with sex at all. It is  more trouble than it is worth. Wait a few years. Masturbating is perfectly normal and it is safe. It won't get anyone pregnant. And yes you can get a girl pregnant at this age. If you absolutely have to have sex. BE SAFE. Use condoms and make sure your girlfriend is on birth control. Also do not have sex with anyone younger than yourself or older than 15. It is basically illegal and you don't want to mess with the law. Girls parents press charges on boys all the time. So be careful.
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Hi I’m a 13 year old girl and I have the exact same thing :(
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Hi there . In a world where sexual things are common and people like to ignore when there's something that's making them feel guilty which is not a good thing because all your doing is descenziting yourself ( numbing )   no one would dare tell you otherwise than its normal . That feeling your getting that you feel some guilt is the Holy Spirit that is tugging at you . You might not know what that is and you don't have to for God to be with you , and when I was younger I did not know what that was either and no I didn't grow up in the church . Wether we believe in a god or not he is there and those bad feelings they dont just come out of nowhere . Now your going through go through faces but I want to enlighten you on what this does to you at such a young age . If you dont believe in demons they do exist I would know I seen one ans not because I was looking for one . But they entice you that's part of their job even if you can't see it .  When you start doing that stuff so young and I would know now that Im way older almost 30 it plants a seed . What happens when you plant a seed ? It grows right ? No matter how long it takes it will grow . Because people see this as normal and many no longer hold anything sacred or special ppl will continue to tell you its normal until you find yourself hooked on watching things you shouldnt and making excuses for yourself as to why its ok to watch , it will become a problem in your relationship if you find a decent woman who feels cheated on because your watching someone else daughter get naked and many will say oh well shes in the industry volunterly but you dont know what her circumstances are and many of these girls in the industry are drugged up and miserable. Then it starts opening doors for other things you shouldnt be getting into sexually and the list goes on of the mental and emotional damage it will do . Not only that but we as ppl tend not to know our value and what we give our bodies our minds and our hearts to and we are more valuable than the garbage we give our selves to. Its easy to say yea go masturbate but its great and normal just because everyone is doing but your not called to be like everyone else and it takes a stronger person to say now and know their worth .
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First of all, you are (both, Varken and Chloe12364849) very brave and smart for asking for advice. The best thing to do is listen, learn, think and then make the best choice for YOU!
Do you feel bad WHEN you touch yourself or do you feel bad AFTER you touch yourself? Hmmm
My guess is that you feel guilty after because people like Jgcooks tell you that GOD won't love you if you masterbate.
Secondly, feeling guilty about masterbating is as normal as masterbating! People don't feel guilty because of the Holy Spirit they feel guilty because they have a CONSCIENCE. Which is also NORMAL. By masterbating, having mixed feelings about masterbating and wanting advice - all you have proven is that you are a normal human just like the rest of us. That should ease some of the guilt however you have to look into it more deeply as for as alike we are we are also all unique.
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Point three - Although it is always a good idea to listen to your conscience, after really analysing the situation you may find either there IS a reason to feel guilty, you have hurt someone else or you are having false guilt -which is when you feel ashamed or upset with yourself but you don't need to be - these time you really need to let that guilt go because those feelings don't help you in any way IF you didn't hurt anyone. An easy way to tell the difference between real guilt and false guilt is to look at the whole situation this way: When you are feeling GUILTY think about WHO you need to apologize to?
FOUR - Poster Jgcooks wants you to apologize to GOD for letting demons convince you to masterbate however that is only one person's personal opinion. My personal opinion regarding GOD and masterbating is that - they say GOD made man in his image, god created man - god created man's penis and also the hormones telling the man's brain to tell his hands to touch his penis and make him (her/clitoris) feel good! - If GOD didn't want you to touch yourself and feel good then why did he make you born into a body with a penis with glands that feel good when touched? No matter how old, your PRIVATE parts are just that YOURS and private meaning not for anyone else just for you - God gave you special parts to keep to yourself so HOW could masterbating be wrong?
Lastly, some thoughts and comments about Jgcooks comments, I am 38 and started masterbating and having sex at age 15. I was introduced too early to sexual things because my father was a pedophile. My father needs to apologize to multiple people. Although masterbating at 15 is ok I do regret having sexual intercourse at age 15. I wasn't ready and was too young but I didn't know that and I do regret it. I have had sex with the wrong people for the wrong reasons and had negative consequences for my actions.
Lots of people still hold things sacred or special these days but the amount of people sexually cheating with other real life people has increased a lot and a lot of people need to say sorry. Masterbating does not lead to watching too much porn, hurting the people in the pornographic videos or supporting others to hurt them. Masterbating does not lead to problems in your relationship, not communicating with your partner causes problems in your relationship!
Regarding If you find a decent woman who feels cheated on!!! This is insulting!!! I take offense to this!!!
Regarding many of these girls in the industry are drugged up and miserable. This is totally off topic these young people going through puberty want to learn about their own bodies not about the corruption of the world! Yes thousands of people get raped, molested and sexually abused, protect yourself and be careful what you do to others but this thread is not the appropriate place to bring up all the filth in the whole world like how priests sometimes use their role at the church to get young child en alone with them so they can sexually abuse them!
Masterbating doesn't open doors for you to get into anything other than exploring your OWN body, finding out what you like and don't like and what feels good to YOU! The only thing you need to be careful not to "get into" is things that are ILLEGAL or embarassing like masterbating in a bathroom stall at school and a girl finds you because you are accidently in the girls bathroom and you get expelled from school! Or shoving something inside you anus that needs a doctor to remove it. Or trying to have sex with people who don't want to or are under the age of 16  look up the LAWS for your local area only experiment sexually safely with condoms and people your own age who are willing and you will be fine and CAN find a DECENT partner with whom sexual intercourse can be both pleasurable and meaningful for both of you!
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