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Okay so i am a 20 yr old female. When i was 18 i had my left ovary(filopian tiube and all) removed with a dermoid cyst the size of a grapefruit encased around it. I was told that likely later in life it would return possibly on my other ovary. Also told i could go through menopausal symptoms while my body became used to the lack of the extra estrogen from the left ovary. Well its been 2 yrs and let me tell you my sex drive has been up and it has been down. Mainly a lack of sexual desire but in recent months i have become extremely aroused for partners outside of my husband. I love him dearly and he is my best friend but i fear im no longer feeling the same way for him and this sexual desire for others is eating at me. I'm unsure what to  do and if there is a medical issue here. I nevber used to feel this waqy it just started out of the blue. I don't want to hurt my husband but i feel im suffering but not caving to my urges for sex outside the marriage. Please help me, i do not want to be divorced before im 21! I need answers and fast!
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well obviously don't cheat its never good and always turns out bad. Being a man i cant tell you anything about your health problem. IT may be good to go to some marriage counseling or a sex cousler i think they have them. I once read a thing about why man cheat and its because our sex drive is so high. >< not an excuse of course but it was interesting because it went into the fact that many years ago it was all about breeding. Many are done quickly and feel the urge for multiple mates to help the race thrive and females also had this drive until they were pregnant (around ovulation time)

its also why man can feel less atached sexual. I never had to deal with this so i can only hpe for you and hope it all works out. I would let your husband know about some the syptoms your having and i would tell him about the desire for others i wouldnt say because your feeling less atraction to him but be straight forward. Let him know about the condition being your husband means he needs to support your needs. Oviously men have sexual desire for other women all the time but its just a desire nothing more you havent really cheated just had thoughts and desires. Make it sould more sexual and less about need another compaion. some people have hidden fantesis who know maybe your husband will have a sex party for you. well best of luck to you i know i got the easy end of the advice guy. I dont actualy have to do anything but i hope you find what you need
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Arah, it's common for married men and women to have some thoughts or fantasies about sex with other partners. For men, it's very common.  Also, shifting hormone levels can play with your thoughts and sex drive.  Acting on those thoughts is another thing.  Please be careful and don't jeopardize your marriage.   You may be more in need of emotional support.  Try talking with a very trusted friend or counselor and don't punish yourself too much for having fantasies. Acting out those fantasies can have very bad consequences, however.
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What is it about the other men that you want sexually? Have you talked to your husband about this and what he can do to help you?
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