Selfish boyfriend

[Kkzz11]

Alright so my boyfriend has always been selfish in bed and I can't stand it. Lately he's gotten some what better but definitely not what I need. I have so much sexual frustration it's unreal. I've told him numerous times about this problem and he just doesn't seem to get it. Anytime we had sex up until recently he would finish and not even ask if I had finished or tried anything, he would just leave me hanging. I can count on 1 hand how many times he's given me an orgasm. In the beginning he had a very high sex drive and I couldn't get him to leave me alone until I would actually get pisses because he wouldn't leave me alone. Well after a while and after getting to know him better and be more comfortable with him I was all about having sex 24/7. Then he got a chafing rash on his sac from sweating at work and walking around alot and wearing boxers so there was no containment hence the chafing. At first he was concerned it was an std but I'd had my well woman appt 2 months into our relationship and us having sex and it came back clear, I haven't been with anyone else for a while even before him and he was with his last encounter for 2 years so it would have been known that he had an std. Well after a month of it not getting better and me being ignored in the bedroom just because his stuff was out of service and him still thinking I gave him an std I dragged hI'm to the Dr and they said it was just a rash that got a bacterial infection. He still wants to believe it's a std so I've been going without anything from him not even a slight touch for over a month. So the other day he gets frisky because I had told him to get over it because there's no possible way that's what's going on. Well we finally had sex and we used a different condom than we had usually used in the beginning. We threw out the condoms after my well woman and I got on birth control, he wanted to use one to prevent any discomfort on his pens.  But we were having a hard time with it on neither of us were getting anywhere and he was still not really doing anything for me, more so for himself. So I told him if he could get me off I'd take care of him. He was all about that. So he took care of me for the first time in a very long time and after I was just not in the mood to do anything for him. So I went to the restroom to clean up and got in bed. He of course got all pissy because for once he did something for me and I didn't return the favor. So basically I did to him what he's done to me dang near our entire relationship. Well I'm trying to go to sleep and about 15 mins pass of my laying down facing away from him and the TV so I could go to sleep I feel him get off the bed and back on. So I rolled over and pretend to be asleep and took a peek and he had his tablet in his lap and a bottle of lotion right next to him. He leaned in and gave me a kiss on my forehead to see if it would wake me up so I moved a little but pretended to be in a decently deep sleep well he then gets up and goes to the bathroom and I open my eyes and both the tablet and lotion are no longer on the bed so I slowly and quietly get up and go to the bathroom and he's masterbating. I've never done that to him when he wouldn't get me off. Idk but I find that extremely disrespectful to neglect your girlfriends needs and when she does it to you, you decide it's ok to go the the bathroom right there with the door open and proceed to masterbate. I find it highly disrespectful, selfish and disgusting. I've spoken to a couple of my friends and even a guy his age who's a very close friend told me that was so incredibly wrong and he shouldn't even be using porn, that I should be enough for him. I just wanted to know from others if yall find this to be as wrong as I do and what your thoughts are?

[clement4now]

When things like this ( the masturbation in the bathroom) take place in your relationship, you must speak up about how it makes you feel right away.  If you say nothing at the time of the incident, it will fester and make you resentful, and eventually it will lead to a strain in your relationship that you are feeling right now.  Honestly I don't see a problem with his masturbating to porn in the bathroom, but I do see a communication problem between the two of you.  Both of you need to talk openly about your sexual needs being met ( or lack thereof).  If you can't reach an agreement on that, or if you don't see a positive change in your relationship in the near future, then maybe it's possible that you two aren't compatible.

[Dalubaba]

This involves many things of life like environment, relationship, commitment and tolerance level. Sex is affected by any disturbance in harmony.Talk frankly come to some plan of revival of relationship.

[Vance2335]

Him not satisfying you, but it is not disrespectful for him to satisfy himself if you did not. Yeah you should be enough but guess what that night you were not so he took care of himself and I am sure he would not mind if you took care of yourself.

[Dalubaba]

Yes, immature is the right adjective to describe him. In fact he does not know that if he satisfy you, he could get more satisfaction from you and he would not need porno to satisfy himself. In fact sex is ideal if both are satisfied at the same time. If both orgasm to gather,it would be full body orgasm.I think you should have a frank talks with him and formulate norms . If he agrees, continue the relationship, otherwise say good bye.