Hello, I'm female, 23 years old, and a virgin. Despite this, however, I do get horny--albeit never extremely. I've tried masturbating with a dildo, but couldn't insert the head for pain. I think it's my hymen that hurts, but I'm not sure. However, it hurts like hell if I try to get something bigger than my middle finger past it. I've also tried a vibrator (one shaped like a long missile, because I thought the pointed end would help), but that doesn't work either. I can only get it about an inch in before I'm wincing and have to stop. Is it supposed to hurt like that? Everywhere I've read says that it hurts a little, but it's a good pain. There is nothing good about wincing and wanting to curse aloud. Also, and I don't know if this is contributing to the problem, but whenever I come near my vagina it starts feeling dry and scratchy. Like when your throat is dry. And no matter how much lube I put in/on it, it never really feels better. Is that the issue maybe? I try to relax, but it's hard due to these two factors. Not that I think relaxing would make much difference anyway because of my next issue.
Before, I've inserted my finger; but had more feeling in my finger than I did my insides. I swished my finger around in circles trying to see if I could feel it, but I got jack. I tried to find my g-spot, in case it was there, but that only brought pain from my hymen with all the digging around. I was able to very slowly insert a bullet vibrator once, even past the pain, but once I was past the mild discomfort of experiencing the vibrating sensations I could then only feel it annoying the hell out of my pelvis. The vibrator would then fall back (or was slipping back out) and hit the back of my entrance, vibrating my vagina and labias and stuff. Hymen felt that that was a big no-no, though, and I had to give it up. I've tried caressing/massaging/vibrating my clit but it's like rubbing the bottom of my foot. The tip tickles a little, but there's mostly nothing. The same is with my vagina and nipples. The most erogenous thing I've ever felt is scratching an itch on my outer labia. A freakin' itch! So that doesn't ever last very long. Something else I've noticed is that, with my nipples and inner thighs, I've found I have more sensitivity on the right side than on the left. Not that it's much. The harder I try to concentrate on the feelings of what I'm doing, rather than the acts, the more it all escapes me. I can't watch porn while I'm trying to masturbate, but it does well for getting me horny. However, I can't find anything that especially turns me on and keeps me there. A porno for me is like an interesting, though mildly mind-numbing movie. Many times I just skim through them, making a two-hour vid into a twenty minute viewing. During which I'll get a little horny (or really wet some days, depending) but all of this goes away if I think to touch myself. Then, after a while of trying to masturbate, I'll become frustrated. However, this seems to make little difference in/to my body being it wasn't responding to me anyway. I can't be stimulated, and I don't know what to do about it. What else can I try? What else can I do? Is anyone else having problems like this and, if so, what did you do/try? This isn't something that has just started, but is something that has always been and I don't know how to remedy it. Can anyone help with these problems??