Tight

[girlygirl827]

Okay i am a virgin and so is my boyfriend. We have been together for over a year now and we are ready to take the next step. We have tried at least 5 times, but every time we can't do it because my vagina is too tight (and it doesn't help that he has a big penis either). It is impossible for him to get it in, and i feel like if he forces it in, he will tear me. I can't understand why it's happening. It's not as if he doesn't turn me on, he always gets me really wet. Everyone says "do heaps of foreplay" or "use heaps of lube" and we always do both of these but neither option works. Please help!

[lostinstars]

Yeah, it's going to hurt. Losing your virginity pretty much IS tearing your vagina. Like others have suggested, use a finger or two first.

My boyfriend and I had the small frame/big penis problem too. It hurt me the first few times we had sex.

[Vance2335]

Yes use lube start off with using one finger then 2 fingers and then progress to a toy that is bigger then the 2 or 3 fingers. It may take some time and it is going to hurt the 1st time you do have sex but this should work.

Some women do have smaller openings then others. So if the above advice does not work you might want to see a Dr for an exam and additional advice.

[thebetrayedone]

I'd say you need to have some sort of penetrative action first.  He should use his fingers or a sex toy like a dildo to widen and stretch your vagina out a bit first.  I do not think that a big penis + small frame for the first time will really work well.  And remember, there is always some tearing when having sex for the first time.