What about anal sex?

[alanna_dove]

i was wondering what makes anal sex pleasurable? and would double penetration feel good too? i am toying with the idea of having anal sex play with my boyfriend of almost one year. Please give me any suggestions or facts about anal, or preferably personal experiences? thanks, alanna :]

[SunnySideUp72]

Anal sex can be very pleasurable for both men and women.  My boyfriend and I have anal sex fairly regularly.  What my boyfriend does is slide one well lubricated finger into my anus during oral sex and then working in two fingers when he knows I'm ready for more.  Hands and knees position does work best for me when he first enters with his penis, although other positions may work better for you.  When he enters take a couple deep breathes to relax.  Go very slow.  You may like it or you may not, but the chances of liking it will increase if you are fully relaxed.  

DP can also be a very pleasurable thing.  For us, entering analy and then vaginally works best.  The fullness of the experience can bring great pleasure to the woman and the extra stimulation of the vibrator/dildo can bring pleasure to the man.  Again relaxation and plenty of lubrication is key.

[sammy73]

Yes, this can be good for both parties.  Not everyone likes it, for some it is too painful, for others hardly painful at all.

Use plenty of lube.

Insert a (lubed) finger first (his or yours!), before he tries with his penis.

DP can feel good too, a penis in one hole a toy in the other, either way around.  He will be able to feel the vibrator too, so extra stimulation for him as well as you.

Nothing (his penis or a toy or anything) should go in the anus and then into the vagina, at least not without a very good wipedown, to avoid getting an infection into the vagina.  I've read advice elsewhere to avoid going from the vagina to the anus, to avoid getting a yeast infection in the anus; all I can say is that's never happened to us, but that doesn't mean that it can't happen...

Experiment and enjoy!

[SixStringer]

Heterosexual anal intercourse can be very pleasurable for both parties as long as you take it slow and use plenty of lubrication, as mentioned.  On your hands and knees with your legs spread and your waist down so that your butt cheeks are wide, he can slowly enter your anus.  It sometimes helps if you push out as if having a bowel movement as he is entering.  He should only go as far as getting his penis head in at first.  Then if you are up to it, he can go further.  It might take some getting used to over time.  There are others on this board that can tell you things from the woman's point-of-view.  Some can only take the head in, while others want the whole shaft in, as each person is different, and this can change over time.  

[Vance2335]

Well from a guys poitn of view-anal is good because it is very tight. But I can't have anal with my wife because I am a little bit too big for her. We have tried a lot of lube and just gives her too much pain. I have tried it with a few girlfriends in the past and just can't do it because of the length and thickness. So I don't have much experience with it, but it is a lot tighter and I know it will hurt.

As for double penetration that is something that me and my wife do. She has a very small toy that she will use for anal penertation and I will penetrate her vaginally and she loves it.

So advice I can give is take it slow use lots of lube and don't go forward if it hurts too much.