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What is considered "normal"?
Please Help. I'm a 32yr old man w/ a mild disability (cerebral palsy). I need honest, truthful answers and advice from men or women who are sexually active. People who can give me advice, by use of their own experiences, about controlling sexual feelings on dates, erections and/or masterbaition. I am still a virgin and have grown tired of it. I figure if I can figure out what is normal or not, I won't feel so imtimidated about having a sexual relationship with women anymore. I also need to know certain things about penis structures which may or may not be considered normal or not. I know this may seem unusual but any help would be appreciated. If you can think of any advice outside the questions I've put down that may help me, I'll take it.
Question 1) Control on a date: I have been out on a couple of dates before but this last one was embarassing. I went on this date with this woman about a year ago to some type of lesbian bar. Her friends were lesbians and I guess she sometimes went to hang out at that bar with them. We had drinks and watched the strippers. It was a lot of fun. Later in the car, she was teaching me how to make out, french kiss, or whatever and while kissing her, I got a full erection and I couldn't get it to stop. I tried to control it but it still happened. It did feel very natural and very good to let it happen but at the same time, I also felt very embarrassed that I couldn't prevent it. I'm not sure if she noticed or not, she never said a word about it. Usually I don't let that happen, this time it was like a d*mn freight train. Does this lack of control normally happen to other guys in that sort of situation?
Question 2) Masterbaition: Sometimes I can go a week or two without masterbaiting, and then all of a sudden I'll have to do it up to 4 or 5 times a day for several days at a time and then back to nothing for another week or two. Are these kinds of peaks and valleys normal or strange? What is considered normal?
Question 3) Erections at odd times or no erection at all: I sometimes get partial erections that seem to come out of nowhere at odd times when I don't want them to happen, and when it happens I usually have difficulty in get it to go away without excusing myself to the restroom to masterbait it away. When I do try to get an erection in private, sometimes I cannot seem to make it happen. Is this normal?
4) Penis size/girth change: I have noticed that when I was younger my penis (when erect) felt and looked slightly longer and thicker than it does now. Is this normal?
5) Veins/Ateries on the erect penis: I see many veins or arteries on my penis when it is erect these days, it never used to have them. Are these veins or arteries normal?
6) Ejaculation highs/lows: When I get extremely horny (sorry, I'm not sure what else to call it), I seem to ejaculate more, when I'm less horny I seem to ejaculate less. For example, during the times when I masterbait 4-5 times a day, I seem to ejaculate everytime, but when I masterbait once about every week to two weeks, I don't ejaculate at all. Is this normal?
Question 1) Control on a date: I have been out on a couple of dates before but this last one was embarassing. I went on this date with this woman about a year ago to some type of lesbian bar. Her friends were lesbians and I guess she sometimes went to hang out at that bar with them. We had drinks and watched the strippers. It was a lot of fun. Later in the car, she was teaching me how to make out, french kiss, or whatever and while kissing her, I got a full erection and I couldn't get it to stop. I tried to control it but it still happened. It did feel very natural and very good to let it happen but at the same time, I also felt very embarrassed that I couldn't prevent it. I'm not sure if she noticed or not, she never said a word about it. Usually I don't let that happen, this time it was like a d*mn freight train. Does this lack of control normally happen to other guys in that sort of situation?
Question 2) Masterbaition: Sometimes I can go a week or two without masterbaiting, and then all of a sudden I'll have to do it up to 4 or 5 times a day for several days at a time and then back to nothing for another week or two. Are these kinds of peaks and valleys normal or strange? What is considered normal?
Question 3) Erections at odd times or no erection at all: I sometimes get partial erections that seem to come out of nowhere at odd times when I don't want them to happen, and when it happens I usually have difficulty in get it to go away without excusing myself to the restroom to masterbait it away. When I do try to get an erection in private, sometimes I cannot seem to make it happen. Is this normal?
4) Penis size/girth change: I have noticed that when I was younger my penis (when erect) felt and looked slightly longer and thicker than it does now. Is this normal?
5) Veins/Ateries on the erect penis: I see many veins or arteries on my penis when it is erect these days, it never used to have them. Are these veins or arteries normal?
6) Ejaculation highs/lows: When I get extremely horny (sorry, I'm not sure what else to call it), I seem to ejaculate more, when I'm less horny I seem to ejaculate less. For example, during the times when I masterbait 4-5 times a day, I seem to ejaculate everytime, but when I masterbait once about every week to two weeks, I don't ejaculate at all. Is this normal?
I don't think there is a man alive that doesn't get an erection when making out. Don't worry all women know what is happening, it is no big deal. As for masterbation, it is not harmful to masterbate several times a day, so whatever feels good do it. Size as well is not an issue. Just learn how to use it well and all will be fine.
Honey, you are very very normal!!!!! All you need now, is to be more confident and realize that you're just like everyone else. So no more picking on yourself!!!! Men get "hard" randomly sometimes, but it's nothing to be embarrased about. As for everything else, all I have to say is NORMAL NORMAL NORMAL :)
1) It is very much normal to get an erection when kissing and "making out" as you put it. You should not be embarrassed, since your friend knew what she was doing and would understand the results of causing you to become sexually excited. You might even say to her: Wow! You sure gave me a big erection! If you get lucky, she might give you a good handjob right there in the car.
2) This is normal, but do not overdue it. Get with your lady friend instead.
3) This too is normal, but here again, a female companion would be beneficial.
4) Organ size can change over time, depending upon your situation, general health, weight gain, sexual frequency, and so on.
5) Veins and arteries are no problem here; you want plenty of ways to keep the blood flowing.
6) This is normal, but here again, I don't like the sound of someone masturbating 4 to 5 times a day. To me, this is overdoing it. I would rather you had a female friend.
2) This is normal, but do not overdue it. Get with your lady friend instead.
3) This too is normal, but here again, a female companion would be beneficial.
4) Organ size can change over time, depending upon your situation, general health, weight gain, sexual frequency, and so on.
5) Veins and arteries are no problem here; you want plenty of ways to keep the blood flowing.
6) This is normal, but here again, I don't like the sound of someone masturbating 4 to 5 times a day. To me, this is overdoing it. I would rather you had a female friend.
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