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Why can't I orgasm?
I dont know how to talk to my hubby about what I need. I have tried but now he is frustrated because it isnt happening. Im not brave enough to show him. Though I have had fantasies of doing so. With masterbation there is no pressure. Its akward to tell him he has got it all wrong and now I feel like our sex life is suffering as a result. For years I was ok with it. Now I want more and dont know how to achieve it. I was so relieved he wasnt pressuring me when he got together that it didnt matter that I didnt. I couldnt take it anymore and told him. How do I get comfortable enough to "show him" what I like but not be so freaked out, embarrassed/nervous that I cant get there. I can achieve orgasm if Im flying solo. I have orgasm twice with him, once when he went south and the other with help of a vibrating ring. He was the first man I had ever orgasmed with. I have gotten close then got frustarted because he wouldnt last long or not perform foreplay. He slows down now for me but I feel pressured and cant.
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There are many books on sex. Select few and bring them home telling your hubby that some one presented to you. You read them and indirectly prompt him to read. I am sure he will be interested in sex. Then you can always search websites on sex. Google, for, Male deer exercise, Female Deer exercise, kegel exercises, Navel Lock (YOGA) Once you start taking interest, you will get many techniques to improve your sexual activity. Of course you will have to handle your hubby tactfully. Usually male do not appreciate if they think that their wives consider them sexually weak.
Don't suffer in silence and watch your marriage go downhill. Try to have a heart to heart talk with your husband about your sexual ideas or fantasies. The fact that you've had two orgasms with him shows it can be done. Foreplay is of major importance as well as slowing down in general, but try to inform your husband, and hopefully he will appreciate your openness.
At least you got it twice , i never did , i mean the last orgasem when (let say water come out ) becouse ther ar e other orgasams .
I have other fantasies and i did tell him what i wanted by grabing his hand when we do sex and put it were i wanted to and telling him here is best , men sometime do the wrong spot ,
I have other fantasies and i did tell him what i wanted by grabing his hand when we do sex and put it were i wanted to and telling him here is best , men sometime do the wrong spot ,
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