Why me????

[Joyell]

When me and my husband have sex, I tend to get to arroused and get very wet. Why is this and how do I fix it????
Please help me!!!!!!

[heatherlynn22]

i'm glad things are working out for you guys!!! that's great he's seeing now that it's just your reaction to him! hopefully he's flattered by it! lol. and yeah i hear ya on the friends screwing you over. or backstabbing. it *****. and like vmvnpv said if you need to rant we're hear to listen!!! or read. lol. you can also pm me if you want. i'm usually around when the kiddos are napping or in bed for the night.

[vmvnpv]

I know exactly what you mean by having friends that screw you over.  It's happened to me so many times I can't even recall anymore.  I'm glad things worked out for you guys.  Sounds like he was just confused and misguided.  If you want any more advice or to vent just do it here or you can pm me if you would like.  It may not be the best advice but it's always worth a shot.  :-)  Good luck!

[kerianna26]

I'm glad to hear that everything is going great for you two.  You're welcome and I'm glad that we all could be of some help to you.  It's ok to consider us your friends, if you'd really want that.  I know how friends can screw you over, I've had several screw me over too.  So I wish you the best of luck and I'm really glad to hear that everything is going great!!!!!!!

[Joyell]

Thank ya'll so much for your info. I sat down with my husband and explained to him that
even after 18 years of marraige I still find him the sexiest man on earth and that my body
is just reacting to that feeling. I showed him ya'll's info and I guess it made him feel very
bad because he kept saying he was sorry, so sorry. I don't have any friends in my life due to every time I get a friend, they end up screwing me over one way or another. But I hope it is ok to consider ya'll my friends because ya'll have brought me and my husband closer than ever. THANK YA'LL SO MUCH!!!!!!!!!!
                                           Very Greatful
                                              Joyell

[kerianna26]

Oh I know what you meant and you didn't offend me at all, there's no need to be sorry...I'm just saying that not wanting to have sex isn't just the fact that they could be cheating...which, in most cases it's true...but not always.  You didn't offend me at all.  Yea I agree with the fact that it's completely stupid that he thinks she's cheating on him because she's sexually aroused by him.  Like I said earlier hell if I was like that with my husband, his head would be swollen thinking he was the man or something.  Unfortunately it's not like that even though I wish it was and I wish I could get easily aroused like that.  lol I just think her husband needs a reality check and actually appreciate what he has instead of downing her because she's sexually aroused by him which makes no sense.  

[vmvnpv]

I'm sorry if I offended you kerianna.  What I meant is one of the signs of cheating is not wanting to have sex.  Not the other way around.  He's accusing her of cheating because she's so aroused and wet.  It makes no sense.  If she's always been sexually aroused by him and then all of a sudden wasn't, I can understand it if he thought she was cheating.....not when she is still sexually aroused by him.  If that makes any sense.  I know that some women and men have trouble getting sexually aroused and it doesn't mean they are cheating.  I also know that sometimes in those situations the person is accused of cheating (not all the time but sometimes).  But not in the original posters case.  Her husband just has it backwards.  Again, I'm sorry for any confusion and if I offended you kerianna.

[kerianna26]

Well I have to agree but yet disagree with something....the not wanting the sex part being associated with cheating...while it's true...but it's also not true because I rarely have sex with my husband maybe once a month because of having no desire to have sex...which I'm currently working on hopefully getting fixed but just to say it's true but not true at the same time if that makes any sense at all.  but like i said before you're lucky to actually have a sex drive like that, I wished I had it..which I used to but not anymore :(

[vmvnpv]

And to add what heatherlynn said, if you were cheating chances are you would be dry and not wanting to have sex with him.  When/if someone cheats they usually don't want to have sex with their SO.  That's usually the first clue.  Your DH sounds like he has some deep rooted issue problems or he's the one doing the cheating.

[heatherlynn22]

joyell have you told him that no you're not cheating on him and you're just very attracted to him? i've never heard of a man accusing his wife/gf/fiance or whatever of cheating because she's sexually attracted to him. that's crazy.

i've been with my husband for 3 1/2 years and i'm still crazy about him and think he's best thing since sliced bread. i also get extremely aroused sexually with him and he thinks it's the greatest thing ever. not once has he accused me of cheating for being aroused when we're having sex.

[iam1butterfly]

Easy arousal along with wetness!
... you have a lot of great things things going your way.
You don't need fixing... if there's to be any fixing, it's your husband's limited
knowledge and mistaken perception of female anatomical function that needs
to be fixed.

[kerianna26]

I agree with vmvnpv, there's no way of fixing that..hell I wish I had the desire to have sex with my husband but I don't have any desire to do so....my husband would say that your husband is a lucky man....don't get me wrong I want to have sex with my husband it's just no desire there....you have it good to actually be like that and there's nothing wrong with it...but like vmvnpv said he may be cheating on you...most of the times the person to accuse first is the one doing the wrong.  

[vmvnpv]

There's no way to fix it that I know of.  Geez.  My husband would think he was the man if that happened all the time with me.  He would never think I was cheating on him.  Could it be that he's cheating on you, hence why he thinks you're cheating on him?  9 out of 10 times that's what happens.

[Joyell]

Is there anyway to decrease the wetness????  My husband is a very goodlooking man, and I just can't help it....  I will try anything, just please help....

[Vance2335]

Your husband thinks you are seeing someone else because you get very wet???
You can't change how your body reacts like that.

[Joyell]

No, you dont understand. I get very wet and now my husband thinks I'm seeing some one els. I want to get arroused but not to the point where we have to stop so I can dry off alittle.

[heatherlynn22]

you don't want to be arroused when you're having sex? the wetness is so you don't dry out and get a cut while you are having sex which makes it more enjoyable for you and your husband. at least it's supposed to be enjoyable.