I had never planned on actually using the question ASKING part of this site, but here goes nothing. I am now 18, and go by male pronouns if that comes up, please be respectful.
When I was pretty young, from the ages of 4 to about 7, my brother would frequently molest me. I can't recall any penetration, but I know there was a lot of his hands in my pants and his penis near my vagina. There was a big incident with this on Christmas underneath the tree and I resent Christmas because of it.
From about 6-10 there were various situations with my sister and cousin as well, where they made it into a "game" and had me touch them, and then they'd touch me. (Keep in mind they're both 4 and 5 years older than me) I didn't know any better so went along with it.
When I was 8 my parents split and I moved into my aunts house. While I was there, my cousins boyfriend, at the time he was 19, would hide me under the blanket, have me touch his penis while he rubbed my vagina. I wasn't sexually mature yet and it hurt bad as it wasn't lubricating?? But this went on almost daily for a month.
Fast forward until I was 16, I had a girlfriend at the time who knew about all this and was very upset and hated that this happened to me. We were pretty sexual, but after a while, I would tell her "not now" or "later" or just flat out "no", because I was having super bad flashbacks to when I was abused. She wouldn't stop and continued on multiple occasions after me saying no. (First question, is that rape?? Am I just overreacting??)
With the flashbacks it's very hard to get in the mood, as I have the flashbacks almost everytime I'm "intimate" with anyone. Even when I was doing fine for a while without flashbacks, it just didn't feel good. I was never wet, blah blah I'll spare you the details.
It just hurt and I always have these flashbacks and I want to know if they'll ever go away or if I just have to deal with them?
Thank you - Lumen