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Women and anal sex
I hear about women all over enjoying anal sex. I have never liked it. My husband enjoys it a lot and sometimes I think he would prefer it over anything else. My previous husband loved it as well, and as an effort to keep his attention I would do it, although it hurt. When we split up I swore I would never go through that again, but my new husband loves it too. He is bigger then my last husband so it hurts even more, although i have to give him credit, he does all that he can to try to make it easy on me and to try to get me to enjoy it . I just don't feel comfertable doing it and cannot relax even after a couple of drinks. He gets so mad and says that our sex life is bland, but everytime I know that he wants to, I just can't hardly stand it. I get him in a bad mood, get deppressed myself and feel like I've ruined the whole night. It's effecting our marriage and I've got to where I only like a couple of positions. What is wrong with me? It feels like he is doing damage to me but everything I hear about anal sex says that it is safe and won't damage my insides. What can I do to please him and help my marriage without hurting myself and him acting like I'm selfish?
You aren't being selfish and you should not feel bad about anything. I think if anyone is being selfish, it's your husband. I am opposed to anal sex because I think that it is completely unfair to the woman. The guy gets enjoyment, but the woman is left unsatisfied and in pain. You have to maybe try and sit down with your husband and tell him that you would be willing to have sex more, as long as it's not anal sex. You should maybe try to explain it to him how much you dislike it and how much it hurts you. Maybe somehow try your hardest to get him to understand. Good luck!
you shouldn't do anything you don't want too - why should he cause you pain for his pleasure? maybe try and find some other ways of spicing things up, so you can share pleasure instead?
Tell him to take one for the team then and let you do it to HIM and see if he ever makes a fuss about it again!
He should not make you feel bad because of that and his selfish side is sure showing through. Sex (anal, oral, whatever) is something a married couple is supposed to enjoy TOGETHER. It's not just about his pleasure, it's about yours too.
He should not make you feel bad because of that and his selfish side is sure showing through. Sex (anal, oral, whatever) is something a married couple is supposed to enjoy TOGETHER. It's not just about his pleasure, it's about yours too.
in all honestee i'm not sure what its called i just rememeber seeing it at the book store while i was waiting on a friend in a diff part of the mall so i started to read it. the ladie that worked at the book store thought i was a creep for reading it haha.
I agree with both of you, ( vance and butterfly ) I might be a young gun at this but if he really loves you he would understand that it hurts you, and he should respect that. I'm not sure if you have one in your area, but here there is a store called " Waldens Book Store " They have a huge book thats about 3 inches thick with all types of positions, different toys and information on how to better pleasure both your partner. Its a book ment for couples, I'm not sure what its called but its a large white book with a picture of a couple under the sheets on the cover. check Waldens, if you don't have a Waldens then just browse around your local book stores. I think it would help you out a little. I read a few pages while waiting on a friend in the restroom one day, it seemed like a pretty informing book. I would suggest buying it.
I'm not opposed to the idea; but, I've never been able to tolerate it either... And, I've never been with a man who has insisted on doing it, primarily because it's really not a big deal, sexually. Also, most men are concerned about giving the woman pleasure; not inflicting pain. Tell your husband that there are plenty of other ways to explore, sexually. But, through the anus... is strictly "off limits."
It is not selfish not to want anal sex. My wife and I tried it twice, it hurt her and she didn't like it, so out of respect to her I never tried it again. I think your husband lacks respect for you if he is willing to put you though pain for his little pleasure. Just flat out tell him that it hurts and you do not enjoy it and you are not going to do it anymore. If he is a real man then he will understand.
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