Aa
Aa
A
A
A
Close
Avatar universal

a girl lied about her age and doesnt feel good

hi i am currently 21 and about 3 years ago i did something very regretful. i hooked up with a girl that was 4 years younger than me. this girl was pretty decent i would rate her an 8 out of 10. i was a virgin at the time and met this girl through a friend at work. i was a real charmer back in my day. but uhh this girl said she was 15 about to turn 16, i said at the time thats not too bad im 18 and shes 15 thats only a 3 years diffrence. all my friends thought she was hot and wanted to hook up but she liked me alot. so we got a little tipsy one night me and all of her friends and a couple of mine turns out we hooked up and i had sex for the first time. i could obviously tell she had some experience. i couldnt keep it up but we technicly had sex with a condom of course. about three weeks later she is trying to date i told her when she turns 16 we will talk about it wich was in like 2 months. ok time goes by and im starting to get annoyed by her and i was starting to see an imature side that i didnt like. and one night she called and i was with my buddys and i didnt want to see her but they wanted to so we picked her and another one of her friends up. i guess we had a good time and some how one of my friends got her number and picked her and her friend up the next day. they got a little tipsy and did the dirty. i wasnt their thank God. but when they went to take the girl back home to her parents house which was at night. the cops were there and the next day my buddy was on the news for having sex with a minor. and it turns out the girl was 14. she lied to me and everyone else. and i feel like **** knowing that was my first and i thought she was 15. 15 is the lowest i would go three years but 14 is just insane and i lost my virginity to her. i should have known when she told me she should be in 10th grade but she got hailed back twice and she was in 8th. i mean this girl looked everybit of 15 now. can someone please give me some kind of advise cause its hard not to think about it? it makes me look at girls with no emotion its weird i feel betrayed or somethin.
7 Responses
Sort by: Helpful Oldest Newest
1255530 tn?1269867619
fact of the matter is this is a very serious crime. Ask for id nest time before u ruin your life as your friend may just have done. This can haunt him for the rest of his life and u two if she turns u in. You will be required if convicted of a crime like this to register a sexual offender and most likely spend a few years in jail!! There are data bases to find offenders online and trust me us parents look at em. so before you do anything like this again ask for ID. This kind of conviction will lessen chances of a good job where u can live and people will know who live next to u if u must register. Think about your actions and look up the laws in your state regarding this type of conduct. In Oregon where I came from I had a boyfriend who was older. I could have put him in jail the min. was 7 years for that crime. Parents can press charges also in some states witch sounds like what happened to your friend. I have little sympathy sorry. do your homework ask for id . U would be found guilty even if she lied!!!
Helpful - 0
1303461 tn?1274328308
You are very lucky that your not in jail and a registered sex offender.
Helpful - 0
Avatar universal
You knew it was wrong to date her until she was 16..but it was okay to have sex with her when she was 15?
Yeah.. not buying it...
There IS a reason that its illegal to have sex with minors, ya know...
I feel bad for the girl...
I really wish that you had gotten caught too...sorry.
Helpful - 0
Avatar universal
This was 3 years ago?  You are asking about it now?  I'm guessing it wasn't 3 years ago, but I understand that you thought the girl was older.  Maybe you thought she was 18.  So maybe you are worried that your friend my roll over on you for having sex with her too, or that she'll tell someone.  

I won't pass judgement on you because we've all made our fair share of mistakes, but next time you need to make sure that you know the girl's age.  Call it a learning experience.  Next time ask for ID if you have to or maybe get to know the girl first.  Also, if you don't want a girl to "annoy" you by wanting to be in a relationship, don't sleep with her.
Helpful - 0
1032715 tn?1315984234
Young girls will sometimes bend the truth,but even if she lied she said she was 15 that is still underage and you didn't care about ----- her and then having nothing to do with her.Why do you want people to feel sorry for you,even if she was 16 if you decide to have sex with someone how dare you just ignore them when you have gotten what you want,I wonder what your mother or any sisters you have would think of your story.No sympathy from me.

Denise
Helpful - 0
Avatar universal
ok...so you ***** a girl thinking she was fifteen, but TOLD her you didn't want to DATE her until she was 16.... all you have to say about her was that she rates "8-10", and all your friends wanted to **** her. Do you realize that a girl about the age you thought she was has only been in puberty for appx 3 years? Why would a "pimp" at the age of 18 need to hook up with a girl younger than that age? were you not able to find any women your own age?

what it all boils down to is, you saw a girl, thought she was hot, knew the 3 year age difference rule, didn't want to date her after you ***** her and then found out you got played by a 14 year old. you are lucky you are not in jail and not registering as a sex offeneder. you only have yourself to blame. guess your not "pimpin" anymore
Helpful - 0
Avatar universal
Well Wow!!!
Are you sure you didnt set your friend up to get it on with her to get her of your back?
Anyways you had a good time and wherent the one who lied.People are like that you know.Get rid of the idea that life is sunshine and roses.People do what they have to to get what they want.Everyone is in it for themself to some extent.People even in most relationships always hold a bit back and never give or show all of them.Well atleast thats my opinion.
You had fun she lied and life goes on.
Keep looking till you find the rite one.
Im 31 and still looking.You are still a young man with your life ahead.
Youl go through alot more rollercoaster rides before you settle so make the most of it and enjoy it.

I believe that as long as you hurt noone you should go ahead and make the most of every situation.

Keep your head up and keep dating:)
Helpful - 0
Have an Answer?

You are reading content posted in the Sexual Health Community

Top Sexual Health Answerers
139792 tn?1498585650
Indore, India
Avatar universal
st. louis, MO
Avatar universal
Southwest , MI
Learn About Top Answerers
Didn't find the answer you were looking for?
Ask a question
Popular Resources
Millions of people are diagnosed with STDs in the U.S. each year.
STDs can't be transmitted by casual contact, like hugging or touching.
Syphilis is an STD that is transmitted by oral, genital and anal sex.
Discharge often isn't normal, and could mean an infection or an STD.
STDs aren't transmitted through clothing. Fabric is a germ barrier.
Normal vaginal discharge varies in color, smell, texture and amount.