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distance to hymen

i had sex with my boyfriend yesterday and i felt his penis entering my vagina ...
i wanna know how much should it get into till i lose my hymen besides i saw a small spot of blood but i can't figure out if i lost my virginity or it is period because am on oral contraceptives (i have polycystic ovaries problem)
please help
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15695260 tn?1549593113
People have different opinions on the meaning of losing one's virginity and this is okay.  Sharing opinions keeping that in mind will ensure that thoughtful dialogue continues.  
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Let me clarify this so that whenever a young girl comes looking for answers, she'll know the truth. First thing first, Virginity is a state of not knowing how something feels, meaning that if you've never had sexual intercourse, you're still a virgin. Why, you may ask, because sexual intercourse is define by the process of a man putting his erect penis into a woman's vagina. Therefore, if you've never had a penis put inside your vagina, it means you're still a virgin.

In biological terms, sex is define has a man thrusting his penis into a woman's vagina, with the hope of this resulting into a fertilization of an egg inside the female's uthera, that is the sperm from a man's penis going inside the vagina to fertilize a woman's egg.

If we human looked at sex this way, there'll be much more less confusion. But because of this wide spectrum of defining sex, there in lies the confusion. Any other thing that is done to the body before sex is foreplay, whether it be kissing, sucking on breast, and fingering in or out the vagina.

And if anyone is wondering that if they loose virginity from fingering, then that's garbage, ask yourself this, if you Stroke your boyfriend's penis with your fingers and hand, but his penis has never gone in you, does that make him a none virgin. No, it's not possibly. So then whether a girl was fingered by herself of by her boyfriend but had never had a penis put inside her, then she's still a virgin.

But then you have anal and oral sex. As for anal sex, if you've done this with a penis out inside your anal, then you're also not a virgin, and it's because a penis is a sex organ, and virginity is lost from having sex, thus, if a penis was out inside your anal, then you're too not a virgin. And the reason why this is so, penile penetration whether it be anal or vaginal, is an act of loosing your vagina, because anal sex is a form of penetration.

Fingering on the other hand is not a sex organ, because your fingers can't produce babies. Thereby making fingering an act of foreplay. Oral sex on the other hand shouldn't be define has sex in the first place because it too can't produce babies, but I guess its because the level on intimacy involves for oral sex.

Remember, no one can do oral sex on themselves, but fingering can be done by yourself, likewise it can be done by another participant, thereby making fingering not sex, but oral has to be done by another, thereby making it sex. Overall, if you've never done oral, anal or penile - vaginal sex, then you're basically inexperienced when it comes to sex, because those are where the joy of sex comes from, and the less experience you are , you're then a virgin... This is why they say virginity is a state of mind, not knowing how a penis feel vaginally and or anal, then you're a virgin. Other sex acts, you see what I say there, sex act, it means they're not really sex, but acts of sex, does not take away your virginity from you, sex acts or just the tip of the ice berg, or innocence to what sex is really is, which is sexual intercourse, whether penis in vagina, or penis in anus......
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1042507 tn?1266250505
I didn't bleed at all! And I have been doing it for a  long time.. will you call me a virgin?? :P
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i didnt bleed until mayb the 3rd time we had sex, so dnt worry so much about that.. wen his penis entered you, you lost ur virginity its as simple as that. congrats lol!
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743826 tn?1377892189
I didn't bleed my first time. It left my boyfriend wondering why... it was his first time also. Everyone is different
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960021 tn?1270662682
When your boyfriend entered you, you lost your virginity -- plain and simple. Whether something inside of you "broke" or not, it's all the same. The second his penis went in you, that was you giving up your "vcard"
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he didn't put it completely just a part
i can't figure out anything
i get embarrassed to go and see a doctor
i really need help
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568812 tn?1379165794
If your boyfriend put his penis inside you then your hymen will be broken...its located at the entrance of the vagina....some women do bleed when they first have sex because the hymen is tissue so when it breaks there can be a little.
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