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fear of others masturbating.....?
im a 20 year old college student. boyfriend of almost 2 years. been having intercourse for about 6 years now. whenever he masturbates, i get really freaked out, upset, and depressed. it's always been like that with anyone. and no i do not masturbate. my feeling is, if i have a boyfriend and we constantly have sex, what is the need for masturbation? is this weird? normal for anyone else? because no one else ive talked to has ever been like this....
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honestly I've never heard of anything like this before. It seems like you may feel masturbation has some kind of negative connotation. Masturbation is very healthy and it doesn't have to be a choice between masturbation and sex. Sometimes masturbation can be more stimulating than sex. During sex you are concerned about how your partner may feel and if your partner has their orgasm before you do, it could prove unsatisfying. With masturbating you masturbate for however long you want to, whenever you want to, at any time. You don't need a second person to be there with you. Masturbation is actually very healthy, it keeps your sexual organs functioning, I find that it keeps my hormones under control, and it can be very relaxing especially when you're stressed out. I wouldn't want to pass judgement as saying whether it is weird or not but I think that perhaps what you need to do is educate yourself more on the benefits of masturbation as just purely from my standpoint, and I may very well be wrong, you were either raised to grew up with the idea that masturbation is wrong.
See, I have had 15 partners..... he's had 40+ and it's never been an issue until the past year or 2, don't know why, :/
I am female and all my partners, including my current one, masturbates. Sometimes he has been sat in the other room, sometimes when he's been away, sometimes during our sex we do it in front of each other for for a different kind of foreplay as we like watching each other doing it. I'm only 23 so not miles older than you but maybe after you have a few more sexual partners you will learn each of thier prefences, and you may find some else who thinks masturbating is a waste of time.
it may just be due to the fact of my relationship issues and how it has destroyed some of my relationships. in past ones, my partner would eventually just get bored and constantly maturbate and for almost a year we did not have sex at all. he would just do it. so it could just be from my past experiences. it may also have to do with the fact that my partner has had MANY, and when i mean many i mean 40+ at 23 years old. having some emotional issues personally could also just effect it. :/ we have had issues of me having an orgasm before him, so it could be that as well.. i thank you so much for all of your help, and it truly could be me just not doing it enough! haha thank you so much for your help hun :) it's nice to have an outsiders perspective
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