female orgasm

[bunz_08]

My girlfriend of 7 months never had an orgasm. She does not masterbate. Loves sex and foreplay gets wet and enjoys what we do. She claims this is the best sex she ever had. When I touch her she gets to a point where she has enough, however with the sex we can go for a lot longer. She claims that she over thinks about things ( not sure what) when we play.
She is on birth control, I read that bith control can have negative affects.
She does not want to experiment with toys, I bough that up with her. I told her to tell me what feels good so that she can have more fun. Its hard to get anything out of her.
Any suggestions.  

[Crystlas]

Most women can to receive an orgasm during intercourse.  My boyfriend and I use positions that are easy enough for me or him to reach my clit for stimulation so that I can orgasm.  Very few women have vaginal orgasms, most is clitoral.  

[Ame_chan]

I have been with my boyfriend for a little over 4 years and he has never given me an orgasm with sexual intercourse unless I was "working" as well. He has only given me one orgasm with oral and that was just recently. For a while I faked, and I felt terrible for doing that. Once I told him, he tried to do everything possible but to little or no avail. Now it has gotten to the point where I just want him to be pleased and I don't mind that I don't orgasm.
Maybe she is content?
I know it must upset you, so ask her to go to the doctor and ask about it. If nothing, then just keep trying! You will eventually get her to that point of pleasure!

[Crystlas]

Is she a bit frigid or afraid to feel an orgasm?  I think it is great that you care about her so much and how she feels.  There is nothing like the first orgasm, I will never forget mine!  You are going to be the man to give it to her!  Will she let you gently stroke her clitoris or have you tried oral?  Also, is she afraid to touch herself due to her upbringing?  A woman is empowered when they get to know their bodies.  It is perfectly normal for her to masturbate.  Also, as far as birth control pills, they are generally safe if used correctly.  Also, she should not smoke while on birth control, it is what is dangerous.  I have been using them for years.  Once she has her first orgasm, she will relax and be more comfortable about it.  I advice that it be not during sex, due to over stimulation.  She needs to let you touch her and get her off, or she do it herself.  Maybe even in front of you to help her feel less weird about it.  Hope this helps!  

[Crystlas]

I do not know what planet you are from, but when a man truly loves a woman he wants her to achieve orgasm.  My fiance gets turned on and orgasms when I do and I do the same when he achieves orgasm.  Let me tell you, yes sex is enjoyable WITH an orgasm.  Women who fake it are selling themselves short.  I have never faked.  I love to orgasm and if I do not, I am hot and bothered and in pain, JUST LIKE A MAN having blue balls!!!!!!!!!!!!!  So, buddy... you need to learn to tend to a woman and be a tender lover.  How selfish to not care about her orgasm.  All the lovers I have ever had, aside from when I was a teenager, cared about me having orgasm and it always excited them.  

[jml1986]

If it doesn't bother her, then I guess it should not bother you. I must admit though, it would make me crazy

[Milfilicious78]

I agree with ellallure, I could have VERY easily *** with my Husband of 5 years by now if he'd just not make such a BIG, WHINY deal about it!! It's gotten to the point that I've stopped trying (yes, we still do it, but I get mine in, first..sad, I know, that's like 99.8% of America). Anyway, do NOT put pressure in the wrong places like her brain and concentrate more on the CLITORAL area!!! I CAN NOT STRESS THAT ENUFF!!! Ok, good luck!

[Cosmogal]

Have you ever given her oral sex?  If not I give that a try. Most women will have the big O with that. Set the mood as well by lighting candles and soft music. Get her to relax and think of only the moment!

[ellallure]

Why are you so concerned about whether or not she has an orgasm? Obviously she doesn't feel it to be a problem as she stated she is having the best sex she ever had with you.

Also, the fact that you seem to making a big deal about it, could be making her feel tense and awkward about it, which in turn could be part of the reason she hasn't had an orgasm yet. The only advice I can give you, is to relax about it. Sex is extremely enjoyable for women regardless of whether the "Big O" makes an appearance or not. Relax and have some fun! Stop stressing! :)