im having houghts about my cousin

[jaysonM]

Hi,im 13 years old and i  have thoughts and fantisies about my cousin.Me and her are the same age,we were seperated when we were 3 but we found eachother a year ago and now were best friends(at least shes my best friend).It started about 6 months ago,and at first it wasnt a problem,i just ignored the thoughts.eventually i started masturbating to her,to a point where now almost every time i masturbate is to her.I told her how i felt and she didnt get mad and were still best friends,but its gotten to a point where i think i might be falling in love with her,but i don't think i can tell her that.What should i do?

[Rich99]

""""Its legal to marry your 1st cousins in some places.''''''''
I've heard of this too but hey lets back up here,  the kid is only 13 so this happens frequently at this age.    When I was about that age,  I had feelings for my cousin that were there one week but gone the next when back in school.    

[jaysonM]

thanks,il definitley ask for a counser

[skuxx]

Its legal to marry your 1st cousins in some places. Would probably cause issues within the family and with friends though.

The fact that you havnt grown up with her, it's like you've just met a new pretty girl whos cool and you've ended up liking her, But the truth is, she is related. You have the same blood running through your vains. Now seen as you've told your that you masturbate about her, i think she will already know that you are in love with her. You dont want to ruin your friendship by making her feel uncomfortable, so try your hardest to realise that she is just a friend and nothing more. If you cant seem to cope then a i agree with the comment above about seeking some counselling. Your school should have one you can talk too. The are not allowed to tell anyone what you say so you can rest assured that anything you tell them will stay between the two of you. Good luck x

[CassCore]

This must be very hard for you to be going through and you are very brave to ask for advice and help. Puberty can be very confusing and horomones are raging! I would suggest counsling, I know it sounds intense, but it could be extremely helpful for you. There may be reasons you are having these thoughts about your cousin that you don't realize. I know that deep down you really just want a healthy relationship with your cousin. If you continue to have these feelings for her, you will no doubt complicate your relationship with her and other members of your family. You should talk to someone who will not judge you and give you good advice and help you figure out why you are having these feelings. Are you friends dating girls and you're jealous? If so your cousin just may feel like the closest thing you have to the boyfriend/girlfriend relationship your friends have. Really, you should talk to someone to help you have peace about this situation.