Try taking L- Arginine and/or yohimbi. Both are good for getting the viens dialiated and getting/ keeping you hard when you want. I'll take 1 or 2 of each (as directed) and go until we are satisified. And this yes after I have masterbated before she gets home from work.
hi im olso married im 53 and masturbate daily my wife is unaware of this i look at girls on the internet. i now have problems having sex with my wife i cannot get hard but i cannot stop looking at porn i get hard looking at girls. it has effected our relationship she is highly sexed she likes sex from behind but i cannot get hard enough to push my penis in.
I think masturbation is only harmful to a marriage if you find yourself wanting to masturbate more than being with your partner. Do they know how much you do it and do they have a problem with it? Some couples mutual maturbation part of their foreplay.
But if no one has a problem with it I wouldn't worry about it unless you think you're doing it too much