my husband is a sex addict/abusive

[Alia123]

I don't know what to do anymore or even how to write this
I'm 18 years old and my husband is 30
he wants to have sex ALL THE TIME not just everyday not twice a day but up to 8 times a day
and every session is like hour and a half .. thats 12 hours of sex a day I CANT DO THIS ANYMORE
we have good days, normal days but those are rare
I feel worn out, tired, in pain and even scared
I dont have any social life anymore all I do is being a sex slave
I can't even say no, severe consiquences await for me then, sometimes he would even rape me
I'm really terrified I want my life back but I dont have anyone to turn to for help
I married this guy without the consent of my family, even my friends adviced me not to
I lost everyone when I got married
but at that time I was madly in love with him , and still I am
he feels out of control and not happy about it either he's a loving husband when he's not "mad"
he would give me anything I want, treats me like a queen but not when it comes to sex
he have to have it , and if I refuse he would rape me
I don't wanna get divorce I want to help him I know this isnt normal, can't be
and he probably knows that
please advice me

[Ashelen]

Swallow your pride, go home to your family, and get out while you still can. If you can move home for awhile and get him to go to therapy it may still be possible to save your marriage if you really want to, but a loving spouse should never force sex on you and I think this is a habit that will worsen over time. Get home to your family. Tell them you were wrong. Listen to the lectures and the chastisement....but you'll be safe. I'm so sorry you're going through this, but we all make mistakes when we're young and you still have time to get out and start a new life and be happy.

[Alia123]

it's been 7 months now
he was not like this when we were dating, a lot gentler
sex was not a big issue, we had it every day sometimes more than once but it wasnt bad, we both wanted it, and twice a day didnt bother me at all
I had friends I had family, it was all alright

[hd5145]

Been there done that...but HE was way younger than me & we were not married. How long have U been married? AND...IF he really loves U like U say, he would not rape you! When U R talking rape you are talking what? Does he forcefully take you/it? Is he hurting U? That my dear is ABUSE, not love. What do you mean he feels out of control? None of this does sound "normal",  I am not an expert in this field but as I said I did live it (for 6 to 7 yrs~  I had to re-evaluate my whole relationship sexually, physically, mentally, spiritually, I had to take control back of MY life, MY body. I too was treated like a queen but the bad days took over the queen days and soon I nothing left of "ME". I did not want to be a sex slave (which sounds like you are) and when I had enough I ended it, with all the pain of a ended relationship. But over time I learned I was worth way more than anything he could give me.  And there are other men who will treat you as good or better, really! I wish you luck. You can send me a message if you wish to hear more of my "story" Oh and I DID even have to get a restraining order, but that was not much good. Please B careful!

[curtism2008]

wow- what attracted you to such an older man? and didnt he show any signs of this before you married him? rape is pretty serious and i wouldnt stand for it.
if you say you love him like you do- and if he "loves" you, then i would give him and ultamatim but i wouldnt be alone when you do it. no offense or anything sounds like a great maury episode (not jerry springer bc they will just make fun of you)