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Hi,
last time when i went for sex with my partner after doing it for first time she told me that she was not satisfied & ask me to do it again but when i tried to do it second time pennis was not lifting up(standing) & i tried for 15-20 min but pennis was not lifting up as it was late so v both have to leave immediately.at that time i thought that because it was the time to leave that is why this thing happened.
yesterday again same thing happened that after doing once my partner was not satisfied & when she asked me to do again pennis does'nt lifts & yesterday i have enough time but it does'nt happen.
previously it never use to happen.
I want to know that is it some sexual problem because of which i m not able to satisfy my partner or is there any way of increasing the discharge time ? Doing second time pennis is not lifting is due to the fact that i m sexually weak or i have less sex power?
I want to add that i m 25yrs of age & also when i tried doing second time i was thinging more about pennis than enjoying sex.
pls tell me that i m sexually weak or the reason is something else also not able to satisfy brings lots of humillation...........
pls also tell me how to improve..........
pls help me........
last time when i went for sex with my partner after doing it for first time she told me that she was not satisfied & ask me to do it again but when i tried to do it second time pennis was not lifting up(standing) & i tried for 15-20 min but pennis was not lifting up as it was late so v both have to leave immediately.at that time i thought that because it was the time to leave that is why this thing happened.
yesterday again same thing happened that after doing once my partner was not satisfied & when she asked me to do again pennis does'nt lifts & yesterday i have enough time but it does'nt happen.
previously it never use to happen.
I want to know that is it some sexual problem because of which i m not able to satisfy my partner or is there any way of increasing the discharge time ? Doing second time pennis is not lifting is due to the fact that i m sexually weak or i have less sex power?
I want to add that i m 25yrs of age & also when i tried doing second time i was thinging more about pennis than enjoying sex.
pls tell me that i m sexually weak or the reason is something else also not able to satisfy brings lots of humillation...........
pls also tell me how to improve..........
pls help me........
Most women (80%) have orgasms by clitoral stimulation, not by penis-vaginal (p-v) stimulation. After you have sex and she wants you to have sex again, but you are not able to get an erect penis, here's what you can do for her. Rub some K-Y oil or massage oil on your penis and let her sit on top of you and rub her clitoris back and forth on your limp penis. Even though it may not get hard, because you had sex with her (which is normal), this SHOULD feel SO GOOD to her and make her have an ORGASM, She won't care if you can't get an erection, because you gave her a wonderful ORGASM!!!! Sometimes, you may be surprised and get a second erection, but don't worry about it if you don't. Remember, she's the happy one. Let me know how this works out for you.
thanks mate...ur last 3pts are really valid,while goin for sex i really feel nervous & also i still dont know what best i like.......moreover everytime i go for sex i use to think more about doing the job then to enjoy it.
i wud like to tell u that last time i satisfied my partner through p-v & she was really happy but then also i felt more like doing the job then enjoying.....i dont know how to overcome it & enjoy.....
pls provide me with some advice...
thanks....
i wud like to tell u that last time i satisfied my partner through p-v & she was really happy but then also i felt more like doing the job then enjoying.....i dont know how to overcome it & enjoy.....
pls provide me with some advice...
thanks....
I know how it is. First, maybe you don't find your partner too attractive... not meaning to offend or anything.
You also might be WAY too nervous. Almost as if you don't do it again, she'll do something drastic.
If you have trouble, think of something that really gets you. Your favorite fantasy or maybe your favorite porn.
Afterwards, just try to keep going as best you can.
If you aren't able to satisfy her, then maybe you just aren't doing what she likes. Ask her. There's nothing wrong with that. If you know what she likes, then there's no reason why you won't be able to satisfy her.
If all else fails, then maybe you two aren't right for each other.
You also might be WAY too nervous. Almost as if you don't do it again, she'll do something drastic.
If you have trouble, think of something that really gets you. Your favorite fantasy or maybe your favorite porn.
Afterwards, just try to keep going as best you can.
If you aren't able to satisfy her, then maybe you just aren't doing what she likes. Ask her. There's nothing wrong with that. If you know what she likes, then there's no reason why you won't be able to satisfy her.
If all else fails, then maybe you two aren't right for each other.
Go to the bookstore and find a book on the art of making love. You will find different ways besides penetration that will satisfy your girlfriend. If there is enough foreplay, penetration doesn't have to last long and she will be satisfied.
Thanks.....for helping me.
i really love the girl...want to keep her happy.previously i always use to satisfy last 2 times i had happened.......
even after all that she loves me.......i dont want to loose her.
as previously i use to satisfy her so,now she feels that i m having sex with someone else that is why i m not that gud as i use to....she is really possesive
moreover,i want to add that i had a bad tummy for around a month & harly able to digest two times meal,can this b a reason becoz of which my performance during sex is degraded ? also,how i can improve myself ??
i really love the girl...want to keep her happy.previously i always use to satisfy last 2 times i had happened.......
even after all that she loves me.......i dont want to loose her.
as previously i use to satisfy her so,now she feels that i m having sex with someone else that is why i m not that gud as i use to....she is really possesive
moreover,i want to add that i had a bad tummy for around a month & harly able to digest two times meal,can this b a reason becoz of which my performance during sex is degraded ? also,how i can improve myself ??
She really says she dosen't want you to use other methods to satisfy her?
Will she push you away if you try?
What I ment about having her show you the way was if your not to sure how to touch her in a way that she really enjoys, most women would be happy to show you how to do it....by demonstration. However, your girl sounds like she'd rather not.
Will she not let you do oral at all? I know your best bet is to try to satisfy her before you start penentation.
But I assure you there is nothing uncommon about not being able to get it up again, men are not like women in that sense. If you want to prolong your climax try reading up on tantric sex..It will help a bit . There is a condom that comes with a vibrating ring..that could be helpfull to her if she denys all other options.
Will she push you away if you try?
What I ment about having her show you the way was if your not to sure how to touch her in a way that she really enjoys, most women would be happy to show you how to do it....by demonstration. However, your girl sounds like she'd rather not.
Will she not let you do oral at all? I know your best bet is to try to satisfy her before you start penentation.
But I assure you there is nothing uncommon about not being able to get it up again, men are not like women in that sense. If you want to prolong your climax try reading up on tantric sex..It will help a bit . There is a condom that comes with a vibrating ring..that could be helpfull to her if she denys all other options.
I gotta tell you that most women are not satisfied by penetration alone. I agree with the other post who said you need to try fingers or oral to bring her to orgasm that way first and then by penetration. If she is totally against that then she really does not want you to satisfy her. I promise you if a woman is not getting satisfied, they are going to let you do whatever it takes in this country. As for not being able to get hard again, there is nothing wrong with you, that is completely normal. Most men are not built like most women, they can not have multiple orgasms. If she continues to be unhappy with you and your sex life, you might want to rethink your relationship.
She says no when i ask her to use fingers or do oral............
also i cant understand the meaning of line" if your not sure how to please her W/O using you penis..ask her to show you the way".....
pls do reply....
also i cant understand the meaning of line" if your not sure how to please her W/O using you penis..ask her to show you the way".....
pls do reply....
you don't have to use penatration to satisfy her!!
chances are that's not what she is asking for anyway!!! Girls are confusing..
Just help her along with your fingers, Or you could try giving her oral pleasure!!
Try finishing her up before you even have sex...that will get her multiple O's..she'll love you for that!!
And if your not sure how to please her W/O using you penis..ask her to show you the way.
Good luck. If you take my advice she will be satisfyed.
chances are that's not what she is asking for anyway!!! Girls are confusing..
Just help her along with your fingers, Or you could try giving her oral pleasure!!
Try finishing her up before you even have sex...that will get her multiple O's..she'll love you for that!!
And if your not sure how to please her W/O using you penis..ask her to show you the way.
Good luck. If you take my advice she will be satisfyed.
Are you saying that after you climax you can't get erect and have sex again right away? If that's the case, I think that's pretty normal.
If you aren't lasting very long and that's why she isn't satisfied, trying longer foreplay before actual intercourse. Also, when you feel like you might be close to climaxing, try stopping and staying still for a few seconds until it subsides. Also, a condom could reduce sensitivity and help you to last longer.
If you aren't lasting very long and that's why she isn't satisfied, trying longer foreplay before actual intercourse. Also, when you feel like you might be close to climaxing, try stopping and staying still for a few seconds until it subsides. Also, a condom could reduce sensitivity and help you to last longer.
thanks for advice...but tell me what next i need to do to improve my performance & if she(partner) demands for sex again how i need to do it again?
i want to add that it had happned last 2 times before that i use to do sex with her twice in an hour+ time & never faced any such problem but now when i try to do it second time pennis is not lifting........
i m in a shock & pls help me out.........i will be thankful to u........
i want to add that it had happned last 2 times before that i use to do sex with her twice in an hour+ time & never faced any such problem but now when i try to do it second time pennis is not lifting........
i m in a shock & pls help me out.........i will be thankful to u........
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