orgasm question: does my vagina pull on him when we have sex

[Curiousanddparanoid]

So when i have sex w boyfriend sometimes he says it hurts. we were both virgins when we meet so i think we've both gone through a little bit of pain  but he says he's not sure if its normal or if he's being too sensitive. usually things are ok but when i get really close to having an orgasm sometimes he says its hurting him. i'm not sure if its a size thing, the wrong angle or if it just normal. he says it doesn't hurt that much but when it happens it usually when we're both kind of close and really pushing into one another. he's not that big, which is ok w me, but sometimes when i'm close i find one of us kind of moving our hips back and forth so that he can go a little deeper. until recently i had never really put anything in there before. i don't finger myself, but i tried a vibrator and i found that i might be squeezing or tugging/ pulling it a little right before i came. my friend who uses her hands says its normal for your vagina to get tense before, but how can i tell if something is wrong. when i have sex w my boyfriend we have to use pillows to that i'm at an angel where it wont hurt either one of us when he inserts himself. when he's inside of me for some reason its much harder for me to orgasm than when he massages me. it feels nice but it just doesn't work unless i'm on top or i end up kind of pulling his penis with my vagina or hips or what ever we're going wrong. also the same thing happens when i'm on top also. even if i don't move very much, just kind of up and down which isn't very stimulating for me, it can still hurt him. i'm not sure if his penis bends. i've had an annual since we started having sex and my doctor didn't say there was anything wrong w me/ like the shape or anything. she did do an internal exam so if he was hitting something i would know right. we don't have sex that often so i think it could be bc i'm tight down there. but could he be hitting a bone/ pelvic bone or something? his penis isn't curved or anything so i can't think of what could be wrong. i don't want to hurt him, but i don't want to lie or fake orgasm either. he says its not so bad, but he doesn't do it every time we have sex which make me think it must be uncomfortable. i'm afraid of talking to him about it bc i think it could be a size related problem and he's really self conscious about his size. i've never said anything about it but he's really conscious even though he's not that small. i guess maybe he feels that way bc it kind of looks that way flaccid but he's probably between 4-6 erect which is normal. i don't know how to approach this what should i do?      

oh another strange question is that sometimes when we're having sex, when i'm close to an orgasm, i feel like i have to go to the bathroom even though i don't. i like to use the potty and take showers before we have sex so i'm nice and clean so why do i feel like i'm going to pee/ urinate. is it possible to urinate before i have an orgasm. usually we stop bc it feels strange

sorry for the long post

[Blue08]

answer to your strang question..  when you are close to orgasim and you feel like peeing ... its not pee... its called squirt...   very few womens does squirt... which is good thing.. your vagina will ejaculate a liquid with pressure like man comes...  you are the lucky one... next time you feel that just release it during sex.. you will enjoy it..  and other thing you asked about your bf feel pain when you close to orgasim... its not understandable... if there is bone stoping then you would feel before him... hope this help....

[Dalubaba]

I am curious to know whether your probem is solved? Did you visit kegel website? whether your boy friend visited Pegym website.your feed back is just for my information,May i expect a feed back?

[Dalubaba]

This is not a direct answer to your symptoms and probem.This may prove indirect way to solve your problem. Research kegel exercises and ask your boy friend to visit www.pegym.com. You may also search Yoni-asan.This might give proper perspective on your problem.