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overactive-libido?
I am a 31 year old heterosexual male and have been happily married for a year. The question i have isn't so much a concern but a curiosity i would like input on from guys who are around my age. I have probably been masturbating since I was 16 yeasr old and probaly averaged 20-25 times a week. when I was in my early twenties I once did it 13 times in 7 hours. Even back then my friends couldn't believe I did it so much. Over the years even when I was in relationships I never stopped masturbating. I have been with my wife for almost 5 years now and we have always had a full very satisfying sex life.....usu. 4-5 times a week. That has slowed some now that we have an infant but probably still twice a week. The rest of the time she tells me to take are of it myself. I probably masturbate about 8-10 times a week. I guess my question is.... do you 30-yearold something guys out there still have such a high libido?? I still feel like a 16 yearold walking hardon who wants it all the time.
I've been married a bit longer than you (although I'm not that much older than you), and never gave up masturbating (although I don't do it as often as you do!). I don't see a problem with it, nor does my wife.
If it is not affecting your sexual relationship with your wife, I say go for it. I have a higher sex drive then my husband so I can relate.
Masturbation has its place, but it's more of a mechanical release of sexual tension than the ultimate sexual relationship you would have with your wife. I might wonder if all that mechanics might detract from the real deal. I would rather not be releasing that sexual tension so frequently and then have the more enjoyable and fulfilling relations with the wife, resulting from mutual expressions of love. I'm not influenced by religion on this whatsoever. I would just rather hold out for the real thing: a living, breathing, loving, warm, interesting "partner in crime" for mutual benefits.
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