plz reply i dont want to be gay

[coolakshayarora]

m 17 male . i dont know why m i attracted towards male .... even tough there are many girls back of me. i want to get rid of this gay like habit. i rally dont want it.. somebody please help me out...............i will be thankful to you..... plz

[Jary08]

Yes everybody above has given great advice. if you are gay then you are gay, its who you are and you should embrace that. it doesnt mean you are but maybe you could try some things and then you will know if you are gay/straight/bisexual.

[HumanRightsGuy]

Hey man, I'm gay and it's great. I know it's hard to believe now, but in this day and age, you'll be fine. It's now cool to be gay, LOL, thank GOD!

[kerianna26]

I agree with Paul, I'm 26 and I'm like that towards females but I don't want to be with a female, I think some are very beautiful and have nice bodies but I don't want to be with them, I'm happily married.  I think everyone goes through that phase in their lives where they want to experiment with the same sex and that could be possibly what you're going through.  Or it could be the fact you just like the way another guy looks, not saying that you'd want to sleep with them or anything, it just could be that you're physically attracted to them.  Really I don't think there is anything wrong with that.  If it turns out that you really want to be with a male and not a female then I suggest you accept the fact that is what you want and not make yourself miserable by being with the opposite sex because you or your family members or whoever else would look down on you..you never know you might be surprised on how people really think about this situation because you're seeing more and more of the same sex couples, there's nothing wrong with it.  I mean I wouldn't do it but I have nothing against the ones that do, that's who they want to be with and no one can help that.  I wish you the best of luck with sorting this out and I hope you can find a peace of mind.  :)

[diaspoguy]

Can't add much things to what paul said.
this is something that you can't really cntrol.
It's not a psychological illness or something like that.
You just have to be comfortable about  it if it comes out to be a persisting feeling or else you will just turn out your life to hell.
ACCEPTANCE is the key. If you search for the most important artists, politicians, buisinessmen, philosophers ...(any field) you will find out that the most important people, people who did something remarkable to humanity are mostly gay. Nothing to be ashamed of :)

[PaulK9378]

First, sexual orientation is not something you could want or not want. It just is. It's like being right handed or left handed. If you are gay, you will have a much happier life if you accept it and not drive yourself nuts over it.

Having said that, orientation is not always black or white. It's more like a scale where on one end are the people who are exclusively attracted to people of the opposite sex, and on the other end are those only attracted to the same sex. Most people are somewhere in between, but more towards one end or the other. People in the middle are bisexual, equally attracted to both sexes.

The other factor is your age. It's not unusual for someone your age to be curious about sex with a member of the same sex. You've recently become aware of your own sexuality and the physical attractiveness of others (male and female) and this can overwhelm your thoughts.

Finally, there is a difference between sexual orientation and sexual behavior. Someone who is gay is not only physically attracted to the same sex but also emotionally. In other words, they can fall in love with the person as well as be physically attracted. Other people are simply physically attracted. It can be a complex thing to sort out and there are no easy answers. Don't confuse thinking that a male body is attractive with being gay. Most often they are two different things.

The important thing is to have the patience for it all to work out and then be happy with yourself no matter what the outcome. Please feel free to post again or send me an email if you want to talk about it further.