I mean its nothing to crazy (thank God) and its stuff we do or have done. So I'm just not sure. I mean he watches lesbian porn but he doesn't want me to be with a woman....and its crazy Bc he will say comments about me looking at things on fb and its not like they are naked it will be like a post from a magazine and I'm just scrolling down and come to find out hes looking and watching porn I mean that's hypocritical! It just makes me rethink a lot of things. It *****.
Your note exchanges actually sound helpful as sometimes things can be written but not so easily spoken. Your comment that "he works nights so we don't see each other a lot . . . " may offer insight into your relationship. I do sympathize with you, but I also understand the powerful pull that pornography has on many (most?) males. The Internet has made porn so very accessible. There are many kinds of porn It might help to know if your husband is interested in certain kinds, that is fetishes, to see if it's also something that you two are already doing or could do, if not doing so already.
I can honestly say I'm not a nagger...I strongly believe the phrase treat others how you want ti be treated. If I don't want to be nagged I'm not going to nag. I talked to him about it Valkyrie and told him how I felt. Hes not exaclty the type of person to be an open book. It sounds juvenile but we have been writing each other notes. He works nights so we don't see each other a lot and I don't want to spend the time we do have together talking about it. So we have just been writing each other notes. And in fact it has been helping me. Hes telling me how he feels on a more deeper level. We don't really have a normal sex life. We do anything with and for each other. So I don't really know how I can be more adventorous.
If all other factors are positive, you may consult a specialist and correct the situation. To create more interest,and improve sexual act you may search techniques to enhance sexual satisfaction. Male deer exercise and female deer exercise, kegel (both kegel each other while doing intercourse), If you take these exercises lightly and humourously, it can be more productive. Just nagging will not help.Google websites for enhancement in sexual pleasure. This might help you to cement your relationship.