stress and sex

[ravengroup]

Hello


I would like to tell you my situation in the hope that you will be able to suggest a course of treatment.

I'm a 25year old man who has for the past few years experienced periods when it has been difficult ot get or maintain an erection. It started with a previous girlfriend who at the beginning of the relationship told me she had been raped by an ex boyfriend. After that I found it difficult to maintain an erection. After a few months things settled down and worked fine but the problem would return every few months.

I'm now at the beginning of a new relationship and really like the girl and although we are taking things slow I don't want this problem to return. I think it has now become a confidence issue, i expect a problem therefore it happens but would be very interested in any thoughts you have on

Many Thanks

[snoopy1338]

he is probably write its all up to you

[ravengroup]

THanks. I should point out that i'm no longer with the girl i'm at the beginning of a new relationship and i'm so worried that the problem will return. Worried I'm in a circle whereby i think its going to happen therefore it will.

[thebetrayedone]

This is totally psychological.  The previous gf who got raped started looking like "used goods" and subconsciously you're thinking that, or you are really kind and are thinking you don't want her to get hurt, etc. through sex.

Abandon any such thoughts.  They are counterproductive.  

As to how to avoid this issue, I don't think anyone on here can help.  It's up to you to find out the solution.