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vegina not getting wet

i am 22 yrs old.i have a 4yrs relationship.in these yrs my boyfriend wanna many times sex with me.we don't have sex.but we had phone sex also.but i never get wet.my boyfriend ask me many times that whats the problem.why i don't get wet.he also tried to fingering in my vagina.but i don't get wet.when i wanna sex there in no vaginal discharge.is this a serious problem?am i not able to sex?I'm very worried about this.what is the solution of this problem?
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134578 tn?1693250592
If you're talking about on this thread, the person who mentioned female Viagra was a different poster.   The o.p. didn't say she had a different quality of response when using female Viagra, in fact didn't mention it at all.  It was someone else, giving her advice.  (Is there really even such a thing as female Viagra?  I've heard of women trying men's Viagra, but have not seen a female version marketed.)

Anyway, all I was saying is that it sounded like the guy was not doing very much to turn on his girlfriend.  It might suffice for a male -- guys have a very hopeful imagination when an orgasm is in the offing.  But women often need a bit more than that.  It sure wouldn't do much for me to have my husband talk sexy with me on the phone and poke me with his finger, and if he then implied "why the heck aren't you getting all stimulated, with my hot behavior?" I would feel justified in telling him that his behavior just wasn't quite enough.  If that is what is going on, she shouldn't be made to feel it is her fault.  It's not a portrait of much, in the sex department.
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Maybe he ask that question because when they first use to make out she would get wet instantly for him by just fingering her. So all of sudden that doesn't work no more, of course that would trigger a question "Why aren't you getting wet"

But if that is not the case, disregard what I just said.

However, new information, she just mention she took the female viagra and experience more intense foreplay to reach orgasm. I am pretty sure her boyfriend didn't switch his technique. So right there is a physiology, psychology, or combo that was affecting her. It wasn't the guy.

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134578 tn?1693250592
Myron, she said she and the guy have phone sex and he fingers her on occasion. That alone is not enough to say what I did.  But if, on top of that, he were to (to use the original poster's words) "ask me many times that whats the problem why i don't get wet" after only doing phone sex and some fingering -- well, doing only that and then demanding to know why it is not exciting her is giving himself a whole lot of credit for some really great phone sex or talented fingering.  
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i tried female viagra and its actually the equivalent of male viagra just pink, i bought it online, its vey hard for me to orgasm and get wet, and this stuff was really amazing! it took much less foreplay for me to vaginal orgasm, then normal and they were more powerful, i could always cliteral orgasm but they are more intense too. it increased the wetness majorily!
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"There's nothing wrong with you, your guy is just not very aware of what makes a woman excited. "

>>>How can you easily say that? We don't know his past sexual history with women (before his current girlfriend). To say he doesn't know what makes a woman excited is too broad.
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I wouldn't get wet either, if my guy just talked to me on the phone and occasionally put his finger in my vagina.  Where's the fun in that?  There is more to sex than mechanical poking around.  There's nothing wrong with you, your guy is just not very aware of what makes a woman excited.
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YOU MAY NOT BE MENTALLY TURNED ON. When I was in a 5 year relationship with my ex, she had a hard time getting wet and that was because we struggled so many times to have sex and it would turn into no sex. So you may not be getting wet because mentally you think yall not going to have sex anyway.

If you were to go get intimate with another guy right now, you'll probably get turned on because the situation is fresh and new. I am not recommending this to you but my ex did this and she came back and told me she got wet with no problem with the other guy.

We spent 3 months away from each other and finally got intimate and finally she got wet with me. Probably because she miss my touch and my company.

Bottomline is this: Yall may need to just engage in foreplay and no sex. TAKE THE PRESSURE OFF SEX. Just kiss and mutually masturbate each other simultaneously. Also tell him to play with the g-spot, don't just finger the vagina, rub the g-spot. That is more pleasureable for the women.
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