ways of getting pregnant

[phcf]

Okay, so bare with me as I tell this long situation i'm in. It probably sounds outragious, but the more and more I try to find answers on the internet the more scared I become that I could be pregnant. I'm 22 and have been dating my boyfriend for almost 4 years. We don't have sex, but we do of course "mess" around if you will. I have what I think is a normal period that involves relatively heavy red blood for the first 2 days, and then usually brown blood for 5 more days that is usually light. What I believe was my period just ended, however I only had bright red blood for 1 day, and the other days were followed by light brown blood. I also do get very bloated but it stops after my period begins...but it hasn't this time. I'm very bloated and both of my ovaries do hurt...but I don't know if I am being paranoid?

My boyfriend and I messed around almost 2 weeks prior and he did *** while I was giving him a handjob and he was fingering me. After that we were done though. We washed our hands...but as terrible as it sounds just layed a towel down over the little that got on the bed. I'm so paranoid now but i'm assuming the hand towl was a little damp? I layed down on top of it on the non sperm side without my underwear on. Could I get pregnant that way? And idk if maybe the tip of his penis touched the outside of my vagina or not...but I know that happened before he blew.

I know these all sound so crazy but idk if what i had really was my period, and how to tell the difference between a real period...and early bleeding in pregnancy.
Why am I having these certain symptoms of bloating and sore overies still?
Can sperm live on a semi damp towel and swim through it onto me?
Could i have maybe layed my leg on his and somehow the sperm found it's way to my vagina because I was still wet?

PLEASE any possible explanations would be helpful...i'm just trying to sort everything out to decide if what i thought was my period really was it. I'm sooo paranoid right now

What is the odds/liklihood of getting pregnant besides actually having sex?

thanks

[phcf]

thank you so much!

you answered every question there...that means a lot to me!
you def. put my mind at ease and help me just relax and not think the worst.

I am a VERY lucky girl that my man is so patient :) I will look into mabye going on the pill just to be safe, but thank you for your feed back about getting pregnant and they symptoms at which you felt when you were pregnant...it helped!

I know being pregnant is a very great thing...just not right now in my life...i still need to finish school and get married first ha...i'd love to be blessed with lots in a couple years

THANK YOU so much again! you'll never know how much better i feel about everything

[savingmylife]

It's ok - I'd be prepared to bet my life on you NOT being pregnant - seriously.

I've been pregnant.  You don't get early pregnancy bleeding - not a day of red blood anyway, maybe some very, very, very light spotting for maybe a day here & there.  But NO red blood.  

NO - you cant get pregnant from fingering.  
NO - you can't get pregnant from lying on a towel with sperm on the other side of it.

You maybe had to much or too little water, were dehydrated or something so were not experiencing the same sort of bloating.  OR maybe you did experience it but the fact that you're paranoid made you think things were different which is understandable.  

If you're not sure if you're pregnant take a test.  It wouldn't usually be positive until about 10 days minimum after your last MISSED period anyway & seeing as you didn't miss your period you are not pregnant.

Vance is right - it's like 1 in 100 000 000 000 000 000 000 00 & if you think like that there's only 6 000 000 000 ppl on Earth so it would not have happened to any other living person!

Rest easy my love.  They're come a time when you're desperately wanting to be pregnant but you needed worry now.  BTW  being pregnant is amazing so is being a young mum!!!!!!

If you're that worried about pregnancy have you thought about going on the pill????  Even if your not having sex - which i must say is quite astonishing after being with ur boyfriend for 4 years - what a patient man you have!  Well done though.  However, if you follow precautions the chances of getting pregnant even if you were having sex are extremely minimal - just remember that ok.

[phcf]

haha okay thank you...

I guess i've just been reading so much other **** and horror stories of people becoming pregnant from being fingered, and from sperm going through underwear...everything.

if anyone still has good info on the reason for my period being light, and being still bloated i'd appreciate it as well...especially how to tell the difference between pregnancy bleeding and normal period...i also found a story about someone being 5 month pregnant and not knowing it because she had what she thought was her period? so if you could still help here it would be appreciated...

thanks!

[Vance2335]

You would not get pregnant from what you have said. You can always take a pregnancy test to be sure, but your chance would be like 1 in 1,000,000,000,000,000 (not scientific).