what should i do about my erection during sex

[chrisg496]

i have been with my girlfriend for about four months now and love every moment with her.  the sex is wonder full,  but the last few time we have tried to have sex i loss my erection during sex, is there something wrong with me? can i have problems since im only 27?   that and when it does happen she thinks that she isnt doing something right and feels really bad.  I am a smoker and is cutting back on that to c if that may be the case but is there anything else that i can do this

[chrisg496]

Thank u so much for the advice.  She doesn't take birth control nor do we use condoms.  I have since yesterday cut down a lot on smoking i was smoking around a little over a pack a day i only had 4 since then.  I can already tell a huge difference, but i sat her down last night and we talked about it and i think just talking helped out she knows what i am going through and she is wanting to support me.  

Thank u again

[PaulK9378]

At your age a physical problem is unlikely (though not impossible). More likely it's due to something simple. Cigarettes can certainly decrease the blood flow to your penis. (I won't lecture you, I smoke too). Other possible causes are fatigue, depression and pre-occupation. A fear of pregnancy can also cause it. For example, what type of birth control are you using? If you subconsciously fear that it won't work your brain can tell your penis to shut down.

Be patient with her. Let her know that it's not her and you want to be with her more than anything. Try prolonging your foreplay more so that you get closer to the "point of no return" before you enter her.

The bottom line is, the more you worry about it the worse it's going to get. Just take your time and try to get to the bottom of it without thinking it's the end of the world. Good luck.