Aa
why am i not that into sex?
all of my friends talk about how they orgasim all the time and are very sexual. ive just never been that way. i mean i enjoy sex, but not anything like most do. i get really turned on and then kinda liike lets get it over. i dont enjoy oral sex at all-i just sit there and think is he ever gonna stop.....i dont mind giving it at all and 69 actually really turns me on, but all in all i feel like a weirdo b/c im not more into sex. i can get extremely turned on talking about it or watching a porno, but when it gets down to it i am kinda readdy for it be done................oh yeah, never orgasim either and rarely get wet.................
This discussion is related to Oral Sex- I don't like it!.
This discussion is related to Oral Sex- I don't like it!.
It is not psychological -_- it is completely normal :)
Sexuality and Lust, are learned concepts and learned habitual things.
Enjoyment of sexuality does not come naturally for most people, especially women. It is something one has to be introduced to, and explore, in order to find their inner and physical desires.
We are all turned on by different things! Just because you aren't turned on by one thing, doesn't mean you are abnormal, or should be. It just means you have to explore your body more, find the things you are turned on by, and have fun and EXPLORE!
Well, I am a recovering sex addict, and even i find foreplay and oral sex to be boring as hell. I like to get to the point, move onto things that i know are better.
The only reason women fear they can't orgasm is because they haven't learned to yet. and as women, we can orgasm in several different ways. All women can learn to orgasm through penetration.
All you have to do is masturbate, masturbate and explore your body as much as possible.
Buy a natural feeling and looking dildo, if you want to learn to orgasm through penetration. Buy lots of lube.
You have to experiment with different angles, different rhythms, lots of lube, fantasies, no fantasies and just focusing on the physical, opening your senses, relaxing, taking a hot bath, first try shallow and surface penetration in gentle thrusts, then try deep. Open your mind to different sexual interests. By angles, i mean holding the didlo in different angles, so you can get a feel for all the different orgasms and feelings. You need to figure out which size you prefer. There are so many things you have to learn about how your body responds to different touches, and how your mind responds too.
When i masturbate, i always start with lots of lube, gentle with surface penetration, it's a different orgasm than deep penetration.
During sex i am visual so i like to be in positions where i can see penetration.
Some women like being on top so they can control it. For some it is better if he does the thrusting, so they can focus on it.
Sometimes clitoral stimulation can help while penetrating, or to pair up different orgasms at the same time, but sometimes, it's good to just focus on penetration, because the others can take away from it.
You need to put yourself in masturbation class, just you, yourself and no one else, You time, so you can explore your mind and body. i was a naturally curious person, so i learned how to orgasm at a young age. but some people lack in the adventure, and adventuring will be worth it, once you learn to orgasm and enjoy things.
anyways, sex is just sex, and it is cliched. it isn't that great unless you are emotionally into the person. that's the truth, even coming straight from a sex addict. perhaps the people you hear how "great" it is from, are young and say it because everyone else is saying it. the truth is, sex ***** until you learn to focus on your desires. you won't feel anything amazing, unless you have a connection to the person, and even then... you won't feel anything until you've learned to feel it. i ended up learning how to build false connections with people, implementing more fetishes to get off, but i think that was just a horrible curse from my sex addiction.
Sexuality and Lust, are learned concepts and learned habitual things.
Enjoyment of sexuality does not come naturally for most people, especially women. It is something one has to be introduced to, and explore, in order to find their inner and physical desires.
We are all turned on by different things! Just because you aren't turned on by one thing, doesn't mean you are abnormal, or should be. It just means you have to explore your body more, find the things you are turned on by, and have fun and EXPLORE!
Well, I am a recovering sex addict, and even i find foreplay and oral sex to be boring as hell. I like to get to the point, move onto things that i know are better.
The only reason women fear they can't orgasm is because they haven't learned to yet. and as women, we can orgasm in several different ways. All women can learn to orgasm through penetration.
All you have to do is masturbate, masturbate and explore your body as much as possible.
Buy a natural feeling and looking dildo, if you want to learn to orgasm through penetration. Buy lots of lube.
You have to experiment with different angles, different rhythms, lots of lube, fantasies, no fantasies and just focusing on the physical, opening your senses, relaxing, taking a hot bath, first try shallow and surface penetration in gentle thrusts, then try deep. Open your mind to different sexual interests. By angles, i mean holding the didlo in different angles, so you can get a feel for all the different orgasms and feelings. You need to figure out which size you prefer. There are so many things you have to learn about how your body responds to different touches, and how your mind responds too.
When i masturbate, i always start with lots of lube, gentle with surface penetration, it's a different orgasm than deep penetration.
During sex i am visual so i like to be in positions where i can see penetration.
Some women like being on top so they can control it. For some it is better if he does the thrusting, so they can focus on it.
Sometimes clitoral stimulation can help while penetrating, or to pair up different orgasms at the same time, but sometimes, it's good to just focus on penetration, because the others can take away from it.
You need to put yourself in masturbation class, just you, yourself and no one else, You time, so you can explore your mind and body. i was a naturally curious person, so i learned how to orgasm at a young age. but some people lack in the adventure, and adventuring will be worth it, once you learn to orgasm and enjoy things.
anyways, sex is just sex, and it is cliched. it isn't that great unless you are emotionally into the person. that's the truth, even coming straight from a sex addict. perhaps the people you hear how "great" it is from, are young and say it because everyone else is saying it. the truth is, sex ***** until you learn to focus on your desires. you won't feel anything amazing, unless you have a connection to the person, and even then... you won't feel anything until you've learned to feel it. i ended up learning how to build false connections with people, implementing more fetishes to get off, but i think that was just a horrible curse from my sex addiction.
I am 28 years old I have tried everything the closest iI have ever been to an orgasm is with a vibrator but i can never finish i freeze up then loose it out of shame I have been with one guy for 13 years and he treats everything for me is a forced chore i just don't want to die before i know how it feels??? what to do???
Your difficulties with reaching orgasm and getting wet can be caused e.g. by physiological or psychological factors. It depends also on the age (some women discover the effective way of reaching orgasm only later in their sexual life). And as for your friends talking about their sexual experiences, you never know what is just "fiction" or boasting in order to make an impression of being an ultra-hot sexy girl and what is really true. The events in their bedroom can be different from their words in a cafe:)
On the other hand, many people who really have a fabulous and great sex life, sometimes don´t speak about it "in public", they enjoy their pleasure in their privacy without having to inform anyone outside about it. So words (or public image) and reality can be two different things... The most important thing is whether your sexuality is satisfying for you and your partner.
On the other hand, many people who really have a fabulous and great sex life, sometimes don´t speak about it "in public", they enjoy their pleasure in their privacy without having to inform anyone outside about it. So words (or public image) and reality can be two different things... The most important thing is whether your sexuality is satisfying for you and your partner.
Have an Answer?
You are reading content posted in the Sexual Health Community
Millions of people are diagnosed with STDs in the U.S. each year.
STDs can't be transmitted by casual contact, like hugging or touching.
Syphilis is an STD that is transmitted by oral, genital and anal sex.
Discharge often isn't normal, and could mean an infection or an STD.
STDs aren't transmitted through clothing. Fabric is a germ barrier.
Normal vaginal discharge varies in color, smell, texture and amount.
