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Hello everyone, I am a 17 year old coucasion male. Ive been dating my girlfriend for almost 5 months now. I knew her for a year and a half before we started dating. For about 2 months into the relationship we have been giving eachother oral sex and some "things" (fingering, rubbing, dry-humping,). We were both virgins before we started being sexually active. One night we decided to try anal sex because she didn't want to get pregnant. I had no condoms at bay. We both had showered and cleaned ourselves thoroughly. Although I knew that it was possible for her to get pregnant just with my semen near her vagina; the anus is very close to the vagina so I had worries. It took some time to get the tip of my penis into her anus. We had no lubrication, or condoms during this scary event. We decided to stop after about 2 minutes. When I took out my penis I noticed I had a very small amount of defication on my penis. When I saw that I panicked then we both wen't in the the bathroom. When I was inside her anus I believe I released some "pre-***". I washed off my penis with soap and warm water repeadily. Then I yurinated shortly after my wash. I didn't know what to do besideds to wash myself. She told me that she felt "slimey" near her vagina entry. I don't know if she was just releasing natural lubricant or if it was my "pre-***". Maybe she was just sweating. I know she has no STD's and impeccable hygeiene but I'm affraid that the defication that was on my penis may cause a problem. And I can't stop thinking about her getting pregnant! I feel so horrible! PLEASE SOMEONE HELP!
Please don't worry about getting her pregnant. The chances of that during anal sex are tiny. Even if you had had an orgasm inside of her anus the chances of the semen getting into her vagina and enough of it getting up to fertilize her egg is miniscule.
The presence of fecal material is not in and of itself problematic. Yes there is possible e-coli bacterial in the anal region- but you were not more at risk with the fecal material than when you were inside the walls of the anus. There is plenty of bacteria there to cause a problem if a problem was going to occur.
You did do a lot of things however to put both of you at risk for HIV, in case there was any virus present, or other infections and diseases. You did not wear a condom. And you compounded that by not using lubricant. This means you probably abraided her vaginal walls because anal intercourse is difficult and even painful in the beginning and might be especially hard to accomplish without a good lubricant. Lacking a lubricant, it is very possible you would scrape the soft tissues of the anus and cause them to bleed. That opens up a parthway for disease for the woman, and if you had any cuts or scrapes on your penis it would open a pathway for infection for you as well. Never have anal sex without a lubricated condom- and lubrication applied to a partner's anal area. There are bacteria that reside in the anus that can be dangerous to your health and there is not reason to expose yourself to this possiblility.
I don't know if you have been to a doctor yet,but you should go and find out exactly what her health status is and what your own is too. If you find out that you are both perfectly healthy you should still used condoms. Unfortunately, while everyone says they are monogamous, some people are not. Until you are in a long term commitmented relation ship with someone you trust you should always use a condom. Even if you are in that kind of relationship, you should always use a condom for anal sex. Condoms will also reduce the possibility of transmitting bacterial problems like vaginosis or yeast infections.
I hope you are healthy- if you prove that you are after your check up , look to the future and better health habits. Who needs the fear that you have had after your sexual encounter? I am sure she has been worried too. Make a vow to be absolutely fastidious about condoms and lubrication in the future. This will show you care about each other and a possible future together.
She could not possibly get pregnant from this encounter. Despite what you may have heard in what passes for sex "education" these days, it's just not that easy. In order for her to get pregnant, you pretty much have to ejaculate directly on her vulva or in her vagina. Pre-ejaculate itself normally doesn't contain sperm, unless you haven't urinated since last ejaculating. The "sliminess" she felt was probably her own fluids, anyway. And I'm not sure why you're freaked over the stool on your penis - were you worried that this somehow affected her chances of pregnancy? Because it doesn't...
In the future, use waterbased lube. Always. Anal will probably be pretty much impossible and definitely uncomfortable without it. And always keep some condoms on hand, so that you'll be prepared for anything that might happen. You might also suggest your gf talk to her doctor or Planned Parenthood about her other birth control options.
As for countering the misinformation you no doubt received in school and/or from parents, friends, etc., I'd strongly suggest reading The Guide to Getting it On, by Paul Joannides. Great Sex by Michael Castleman is also a great book for young guys in particular. The Big Bang by Em and Lo is a great book, too :-)
In the meantime, you can most definitely relax about this particular event :-)
I first started having anal with my boyfriend for the first time. The fact is women make there own lube in the anal after being turned on. And anal is usually so pleasing that women will sometime become moist around that area as it is. No she most likely isnt pregnany I dont know if you were informed in sex ed but a women also makes liquid in the virgina actually kills of some sperm and also alot of sperm loss there way in the virgina. Thats the tip for though for you. and play around with her anal with you finger(s) and she will produce her own lube and feel better.
Anal sex is something that needs to be worked up to, not something that you just jump in to. Just like males, a females anus is just as sensitive to pressure and stimulation, but with the right amount of lubrication can be a very pleasurable act. As far as fecal matter on your penis, don't worry. Washing after anal sex is an acceptable deterent from bacterial contamination, the only NO NO to anal play is going from the anus to the vagina without cleansing the penis first. Getting your girlfriend pregnant is another issue all together. You both should use contraceptives.. condoms for you and oral birth control for her. In this day and age there is absolutely no reason for her to get pregnant.. stupidity is the number one cause of pregnancy in teens today. Sorry if that sounds crude, but it is the honest truth. Sex is something that the two of you should openly discuss, if you don't feel comfortable doing this, then maybe you are not mature enough to be having a sexual relationship.
Thank you all for your comments. But I have a few more questions for you all. About the e-coli bacteria in the anal region, what is the outcome of enountering such a bateria? And what of other bacterias? What other kinds of infections and diseases could have ocurred? And for my girlfriend, what kind of things could have happened to her? But in your reply, please consider that we are both "clean". In the sense...we both dont have any STD's or diseases....I just want to know what could have happened...worse case scenario. Please reply soon. Oh, and yes...I have an oppointment for a physician soon...to be 100% sure I am "clean".
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