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How can i make my sex drive higher as i am only 21years old and i dont really have one ive been with my boyfriend for 3 and a half years and we have a 2year old daughter. He has a very high sex drive and i would love it if i had the same sex drive as him or just a higher one plus i would love to make him even more happyer and myself and i would like to give him more than just a quicky as i get bored quick so how do i improve my sex drive??????????????????????????????????????
well for one thing, you have to determine if this is about your sex drive or about his sexual technique, or just about the stress and work it takes to raise a two year old daughter! One of the most constant findings of loss of sexual interest is if someone is extremely tired. Fatigue is one of the biggest enemies of sex drive and it is possible that because of your daughter's needs you are busy, stressed and maybe even sleep deprived. If that is so, see if your boyfriend can help more with your child so that you can rest up and get some time off. He might be delighted in the results of his help: your sex drive might go up a lot!
It is also true that perhaps the two of you need to work on the way you make love.Does he spend a lot of with touching your clitoris, giving you oral sex and kissing and stroking you? If he doesn't- encourage him to do more-- it will do wonders for how much you want more sex!
My guess is that your sex drive will change a whole lot if you get more rest, less stress and if he takes a lot of time to excite you. If it doesn't , write back and let me know- but try this first!
it's his job to make you want him more, your not a plastic sex doll, your a person with feelings and your own sexuality.
what does he do for YOU ! your not there to serve his needs
24/7. besides, your sex drive is way more complicated than his.
he needs to learn how to get your engines firing on all pistons
before he even unzips his pants. just my opinion, i could be wrong ! l.e.
thanks, but it's just common sense. since i'm a guy i know
what it takes to get us horny, EVERYTHING !!! but i have known
woman enough to know two things> 1 they are all unique in some way. 2 sex is a very delicate matter, and takes alot of effort from a guy (who experiences sex on a simplistic level, thats why it's fun to be guy !haha) to understand whats going on inside the female brain (bring a compass)!!!! l.e.
l.e.- Although I am very fond of you I just do not agree with you on this one. I am also young and almost in the same exzact postion as she is with the exception of one more child. Even though i am postitve know one could get bored with you...
Hothunny- sorry if this is tmi but my husband is awsome, I have never had sex with him without having a orgasim. BUT...I also have stages where I go through the same thing. I could go a month with out it some times, but then there will be 2 weeks straight that I can't keep my hands off of him. Women can have chemical imbalances or you could just be stressed causing you to not want it. Try something to excite you. Role playing, maybe a little porn. you could also talk to your doctor about it, there is meds that can help you out a little.
Thank you every0ne dont get me wrong i do love my boyfriend he's the best thing that has ever happenend to me ive had a few bad relaships and 1 really bad one could that be why i dont really have a sex-drive coz of my ex's?? im scared of getting hurt again my boyfriend understands when i want it and when i dont but im not happy with my sex-drive :( but im sure if i wait it will come to me when it wants!
Hunny-You answered your own question...you have a 2 year old! When my kids were that young, I never wanted anyone else to touch me. My nerve endings were on sensory overload. Give yourself a break and don't worry.
Leif-I missed you over the holiday weekend...did your duct tape wounds heal?
yeah you bad boy you may need a spankin'! LOL...although i do not advovate violence. so cable girls post were in red? it is indeed strange that you would receive an email? you never say anything out of line! see what happens when you run with the big girls?
you be good now!
No i am not restentful that i have a 2yr old daughter i love my daughter so much she is the most preshes thing in my life and he is going to marry me he wants 2 marry me asap but im the one who wants 2 wait!!!! My sex-drive has nothing to do with my daughter or my boyfriend i think it has something to do with my EX and what he did to me and what he did to me has made me timmed of men and scared thats how bad he was/is as u can tell he use to beat me and other things but my boyfriend Now has made me stronge again and has shown me what love really is i just wish i could give him more...
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